So I started sleeping with my ex. We have both agreed we will see other people but since we don't know anyone else who is better in bed we will "take care" of each other for the time being. There's no way we'll ever be serious, I have a kid and she doesn't want that in her life. I don't really have any romantic feelings for her anyway, but the sex is some of the best I've had. Has anyone ever had a situation like this? Any thoughts or advice?
2007-12-06 07:55:25 · 15 answers · asked by heart0of0stone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're both honest about it and it's what you want, there's nothing wrong with it in my opinion.
If there is a risk that one of you might fall in love again (and the other might not), then you really have to tread carefully.
There's also the potential issue of STDs. If you're seeing other people does that mean sexual activity too? Or will this relationship end when you start having sex with someone else?
You need to discuss these issues, but if you can find a point of pragmatism, I see no issues with this.
2007-12-06 07:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by PhotoJim 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm doing the exact same thing! My bf and I broke up in the summer and we have not stopped having sex. We were together for about a year and a half before that. My advice is to be very careful not to hurt her! Especially if she still has feelings for you. Otherwise, enjoy the free milk baby! ;)
2007-12-06 08:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aaahhh sex with the ex... it's always going to be good 'cause you know what eachother likes, and it's convenient. I say... have fun, but keep looking. Don't feel like you have to be in a relationship with her just because you're boning! Sex does not equal love or take the place of it. You deserve to be with someone who can love you unconditionally.... until you find that, keep having fun with the ex LoL
2007-12-06 08:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by pixi3girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so me and my husband did that when we were not together before we got married! He had another girl and he didn't like having sex with her! He would call me everyday to have sex with him until he finally relized that he wanted to be with me and just be with me. We were just in that point in our life where we had been with each other for 7 years since HS and had never had other relationships with other people and never went out or anything it was always us and before we took that next BIG step we agree to go our own ways to see if that is what we wanted! and if so then it wasn't meant to be and if we got back together it was meant to be! But you have to have sex with someone you trust!
2007-12-06 08:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's called friend with benefits and it almost never works out. Exes are called exes for a reason. They should be left in the past. Are you that damn horny that you have to agree to being used? I'd just take care of business myself.
2007-12-06 08:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my current 3 year relationship. I anit never met a great lover like him he got a family not married but we dont consider ourselves BF's until just recently. I you love her you should be careful cause you could get hurt if she finds someone. She also may just grow feelings for you and your child and ya'll may be come a happy lil family
2007-12-06 08:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by L4L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretty common, but it makes it hard to move on. i mean what do you tell the new girl you're going to date. because you're still involved with your ex and the new relationship is basically deceptive from the beginning. i understand but realize that it does impact the dating other people thing. ie you won't have as many needs driving you to get another relationship.
2007-12-06 07:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AS SOMEONE SAID BEFORE, AS LONG AS YOU GUYS TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT AND EXPECT FROM EACH OTHER, ALL IS GOOD. BUT IF YOU THINK YOU MIGHT CATCH FEELINGS FOR HER AGAIN-EVEN THOUGH SHE WOULDN'T WANT THAT BECAUSE YOU HAVE A CHILD-YOU MAY WANT TO RE-THINK THAT SHORT LIVED GRATIFICATION. BUT OTHER THAN THAT YOU GUYS ARE BOTH SINGLE ADULTS, SO WHY NOT ENJOY SOME GOOD SEX!
2007-12-06 08:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- most of us have been there. Having sex with exs is like the 2nd favorite american pastime.
2007-12-06 07:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by hellnocutco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should just end it i mean if you both don't have any feelings for each other why even bother. Go find a women who you will have feelings for.
2007-12-06 08:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by Binky :-) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋