2007-12-06 07:49:35 · 23 answers · asked by Andre 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
how much does he want to be involved? some men are interested in every aspect while other men don't want to have to do anything except show up at the alter.
talk to him and see what he wants to have a say in, he may only want to have input on a few things. perhaps the transportation, the venue, and the honeymoon will be all he is interested in. he may not care about flowers, caterers, etc.
once the two of you have discussed it all, you can move forward and get things organised.
our one son-in-law had a clear idea as to what he expected their wedding to be like, stated his ideas and trusted her to do her best to meld their ideas into one.
the second one took care of transportation, tuxes, and was present at the food tasting and offered his opinions on the choices available to them.
the third son-in-law didn't care, as long as she was happy and he didn't have to wear a white tux he was happy.
our son was interested in every aspect and drove us to distraction! lol
so talk to your man so that you both know who expects what! good luck and happy wedding!
2007-12-06 11:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three years ago I worked with a Groom who was NOT happy about the plans for his wedding and reception. He called this wedding "his Mother- in-law's wedding."
"She picked out everything . . the wedding cake . . the ceremony and reception site . . the musicians . . the caterer . . the photographer . . and the food. She even went to the men's wear shop and picked out the tuxedo she wanted me and the best man to wear. I didn't like it but there wasn't much I could do about it because I was away at college (last semester of senior year). I was furious when I found out that she just took over, I wasn't even consulted on most of the decisions."
And now you know why it is important for the Groom to be involved in the wedding plans. This Groom couldn't wait for the wedding to be over because it was NOT the wedding that he had envisioned.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-12-06 08:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were a groom (unfortunately I'll have to be a bride when I get married, unless I get a sex change but thats not likely) I'd steer clear from being involved in the planning. If she asks your advice then give your suggestion but whatever she likes just remember to always say "thats perfect honey". Women can get very Bridezilla like when it comes to the wedding. God forbid you mess up the flower arrangement. You will bring her to rage. I know for my sake I don't want all the stress of planning a wedding, I'd be happy with going to vegas and having a small quick wedding. We can have a reception to invite all the people to bring gifts and celebrate the wedding of course. lol
2007-12-07 06:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Equally - there are two of you getting married, right? Share the planning responsibilities as equally as possible, so that you both feel included and neither of you is overwhelmed. My fiance and I made a list of tasks to do and assigned each task to one or both of us. For example: book venue (bride & groom); book DJ (groom); meet with florist (bride & groom); prepare and mail invitations (bride & groom); set up planning meetings with officiant and wedding planner (bride). Because we're so busy, this strategy is working really well for us. And - if either of us needs or wants help, the other always helps.
It's funny to read some of the other responses. I guess I'm *really* lucky to have someone who is so involved. Besides, the reality is that my fiance has a much better sense of style than I do, and he really does care about the food, wine, and all the details that make the reception nice. I'm good at dealing with all the logistics, but I trust his sense of style regarding decorations and clothing much more that I trust my own. I let him choose colors and flowers, and he did well: we're going with dark reds and spice colors, and our arrangements will be mostly orchids. beautiful!
2007-12-06 08:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think very involved, IMO. It is his wedding as much as it is hers. I made it real clear right from the start that I wasn't doing this by myself-and the truth is, he wouldn't have it that way either. I think its sad when the groom only wants to show up. I know guys mostly don't care about flowers and color schemes, but most at least do care about the food and bar, the band or dj and the cars, etc.
2007-12-06 08:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should be open to being involved as much as they can
unless the fiance says butt out. You should have a say it is your day as well and giving your money is not the only aspect you should be part of. I think tell them what you like etc. When I got married I planned most of it because I had the connections like getting the flowers, planning the catering, getting the tuxes, and getting the money from mom to pay for it all. Really if you want a say in your day be a part of it if you just want to show up then remember if something is not to your liking it is your own fault.
2007-12-06 08:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, he can be as involved as he wants. My fiance only wants to be involved in big decisions, where it is, when it is, how much things are, stuff like that. He doesn't care at all about details, colors, dresses, flowers, etc. We established this in the beginning so I know what I should probably get his opinion on and when I don't even have to ask.
Plus, this is my first wedding but his second, so he is a little freer to let me take the lead.
2007-12-06 07:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most guys honestly don't care about much in a wedding besides the fact that their life is ending...(just kidding!!) i meant to say that they are marrying the love of their life! =) They should at least be involved enough to make sure that if they have any ideas to throw in they do and if the bride is having a hard time deciding on something, the groom should at least help her figure something out.
2007-12-06 23:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lil Bit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As much as he wants to be. I have been to 2 wedding while my fiance used to be a wedding photographer so he has a better idea of what we should be planning. I have let him think up of the main ideas. But we mostly work together on this.
2007-12-06 10:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as he wants! Some manly men just aren't into all the minute details (mine wasn't), but since we were hosting the wedding ourselves, we had made all the big decisions together, and it worked out really well.
I would have worried if he started stressing over the colours of the bridesmaid dresses, or the floral arrangements...
2007-12-07 03:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋