Why is he being so distant?!?

Question

To summarise; I've known this guy for two months now. I went for drinks with his friends, things seemed cool. I went back to his house... we kissed and hugged but that's pretty much it. He got out of a 2 year relationship in the summer and I got out of a 6 month one. Anywho, we began to get close, and it felt wicked until he put on this 'guard' that we admitted he was putting on because he doesn't want to get hurt. Also, he said that he doesn't want to get into a serious relationship for obvious reasons. This hurt and made me want to, even though initially, I didn't. All of a sudden, he became distant... we could both feel it. He was no longer cute & sensitive. I feel as though I'm treading on eggshells. It's horrible! Some of his friends (especially his BEST friend) are quite mean to me these days, even though it's allegedly a 'joke!' - Errrrr, NO! He's such a good guy... what happened? He said, out of the blue, when I said I missed him, that I was being clingy and that we're mates =/

Answer 1

Kirsty, he wants to play around for a while with the guys he just do not want to be really with anyone at this time. I will tell you to hang out with other people and just maybe if it's meant to be that you and him will be together then it will happen, do not grow old waiting on this guy and stop taking crap from his friends, they know whats reall going on and just maybe why he became distance is his ex girl back in the piture or maybe they're talking again some what. Just be on your guards and you need your freedom and put that energy into something to better your life, work or school not a man, Think about this before you do something that you can not take back, P.S. i hoped that you have not slept with him, GOD forbids you made that stupid mistake, take your time be his friend not his booty-call, that's what is wrong with us women now days quick to jump into the bedroom before knowing who and what we are truly dealing with, there are skeletons in the closet for a reason. I hope that I could help you if nothing but a little write back if you like, there is more to talk about. Good Luck Kirsty.

Answer 2

All men are turds. Back off majorly! For real. Guys notice you when you stop noticing them and vise versa. When you treat them like a friend or as vapor, that's when they truely begin to pay attention to you.

When I first met my husband, he was super sweet and so nice and kind and then out of no where he says "We need to slow down and be friends." So I did just as he said. I only said hello to him and how are you and nothing more. I went on about my daily life. I never tlaked personal life with him or his friends. I just made sure to have a good time. I ignored his friends too when they would say childish things. If they were "Joking", I would just smile and say "You guys are too funny." and walk away and leave it at that. I never tried to make him jelous. People can sense when you dont like them or youre not into them. So it's important that you show your not into him and not let him nor his Kronies get to you! Sont be mean either. Just be your sweet kind self, but cutt off anything intimate with him. Just stop calling and if he calls return his calls a day later. Also, if he asks you out again or something, just say sure and you would like to catch up b/c you have been super busy. Make it seem like you werent interested in him at all and had kinda forgotten about him. Then the day before you meet call and leave him a voice mail or email and say you will have to take a rain check and make it for another day.

Good Luck and I knwo you probally dont want to play games but everything is a game sadly.
Big Hugs from NC!

Answer 3

This is bad I have been through this several times trust me. You need to run or leave this guy!Like Yesterday you are going to get hurt and its coming soon.Whats going on is that this guy coming out of a relationship was not ready to start a new one he was lonely and on the rebound. And so are you Wheither you know it or not. Just leave and wait for a while and have fun I just got out of a two yr marriage and it is hard but you have to focus on you and mourn over your last relationship first then that someone will come along when you aint lookin!

Answer 4

If you want something serious and he doesn't then you need to move on. Otherwise you are just putting yourself through all this hurt for nothing. He obviously is not interested in pursuing a serious relationship with you right now.

Answer 5

He told you why. He doesn't want to get hurt, probably because some girl burned him before.

The ball's in your court. If he's that much worth it to you, you can stick it out. Otherwise, it doesn't sound like he's going to give you what you're looking for. The only thing you could do then is let him know that you're looking for more and move on.

Answer 6

i'm being distant from numerous human beings magnificent now regrettably. besides the undeniable fact that it is for none of those motives. between the justifications is via distance and shortage of money and the different is via the fact i'm introverted and don't refer to human beings as much as they are used to. i can positioned human beings off for days and not be conscious for awhile.

Answer 7

Kirsty, your pushiness is making your situation worse, enough so, that he seems he's confided to his friends about it, hence the mean treatment. Don't hang around where you're not wanted. Cut your losses and look for someone else to date.

Answer 8

Let his a** miss you. Don't call him for a while and go out and have some fun with other people. We'll see who will be clingy then.

Answer 9

He is no longer interested and wants to move on, you need to do the same! It's not a match made in heaven! sorry =(

Answer 10

Pretty obviously he doesn't want a relationship with you.