is it wrong to stay with a man (who is the father of the child im carrying) if i dont love him and.........?

Question

i dotn think i ever will for the child? i was going to break up with him before i found out i was pregnant but now my grandparents are saying that i have to stay with him bc of the baby. i dont know what to do. the sight of him at times disguists me everything he does i pick at in my mind ie he eats to fast and shovels it down without taking a breath inbetween bites and he chews w his mouth open and he never has any fun he critiques every where we go just to name a few. does anyone have any ideas

first of all i didn't have unprotected sex with this man we had condoms and yes we did use them. and at the time i confused love w the newness of the relationship

and any child i i have now or in the future i will keep and take care of bc i have already fallen in love with this child. its a piece of me and no matter what happens to me or the father i will always love and cherish this tiny piece of me

Answer 1

You should never stay with someone "for the sake of the child". That is frequently more harmful than leaving. I would say maintain at least a level of civility for the sake of the child, friendship even, if that's possible. The better you are able to get along, the better the two of you will manage to raise a happy, well-adjusted child.

Answer 2

If you are that miserable, than leave him. I understand your grandparents position on a woman and man should stay together for the sake of a child but consider leaving him but before you do, make sure he is going to be there as a father for the child. Remember there are men out there that are OK with women having kids Good luck

Answer 3

if you stay with this man, then yes: your baby will have a father around. but with you already disliking so many of this guy's habits... picture yourself having this baby while still being with him... you're going to get even more frustrated with these little habits of his, right? no one can live like that forever, you're probably going to start arguing with him and end up fighting a lot. do you think this will make your kid happier in the long term than not having one parent around all the time? i personally don't think so... you can't spend the next 18 years of your life with this guy just not to take away your child's father-figure because inevitably, the way you described your feelings towards this guy... you will end up fighting... and that's even worse for your child...
think it over, good luck

Answer 4

You don't have to stay with him if you don't want to. You can leave at any time. Your child will be happier if you're happier! But just make sure that you make a clean, friendly break, and remember not to say or do anything you'd regret. He will always be a part of your life, and your child's. Good luck, and do what is best for you, not your family!

Answer 5

ummm!!! you shouldnt have gotten pregnant by a man that you don't love. Moving on take the child as a blessing and there is no rule that says you have to stay with you babys father. I hope you start making wiser choices down the road because you child will pay for any mistake you make. Good luck.

Answer 6

I'm raising my daughter and not with her father. But we chose to be that way. I don't dislike anything about him and we still do family things together. We just don't "have" to be together to raise a child. If we are both happy and she is being provided for there is no reason for us to be together for the child so long as we are both there for the child. I'd rather my child know two happy parents than two miserable parents who only stay together because they think they have to for the children. Talk about putting pressure on a child.

Answer 7

I think so, though you must have liked something about him to begin with. I would think carefully about this one, is there nothing to be salvaged, maybe relationship counselling. I would try a few avenues before giving up completely at least then you know you've tried. Whatever you do try to be his friend and treat him nicely because he is the father of your child so it will be better all round if you can get along with him at least, good luck :)

Answer 8

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Answer 9

And the million dollar question is: Why did you have unprotected sex with someone that you don't care about?

If you are just picking at little things he does, I'd say you're looking for excuses. I'm sure you have irritating habits as well.

Maybe next time you'll keep your pants on.