alrighty, well i have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now, i love him to death we get along great except for the usual bf/gf tiffs. We are wanting to move in with eachother around febuary, and my family is concerned that that is too soon and now i am wondering if it is too soon... i am 20 years old by the way and he is 23...what do yall think...and dont be hateful please!....thank you!
2007-12-06 07:11:58 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to listen to your parents.................it's rough out there!
2007-12-06 07:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are so many nasty people on here, it's amazing the responses people get. But anyhow...Why not go for it? Try it out? I moved in with boyfriend after 6 months too and we've been together for years now. So it worked. You will certainly learn a lot about each other, grow as people, and learn how to manage your own money and your own lives. Your relationship sounds stable too. It's not like you're fighting constantly or there is too much drinking or spending too much money. You didn't mention any of those negative things. So go in with an open mind and a positive attitude. If it doesn't work out, you can address that when you get to it. Life's a journey of ups and downs! Good luck!
2007-12-06 07:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your parents, it's too soon. The first 8-12 months of a new relationship are like a drug. You're all into each other and excited all the time and it's not like real life. Why the hurry? Why not wait a year? If you're really a good couple, you'll STILL be a good couple in a year from now, right? So why not wait and be more certain?
2007-12-06 07:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone seems to want to move in together these days, but I'm against that really. I read in a (secular) psychology book at the university that I attended that when a couple lives together before marriage, they are more likely to end up in divorce( if they do get married.) Everyone there who wasn't a christian, were like...what?! They didn't expect to read something like that. They thought the opposite would be true. So, I'd say atleast to wait atleast a year before you decide to make a major step like that. Your relationship may become stronger or you may find that it'll fall apart before next Christmas.
2007-12-06 07:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Just me. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it should be up to you. It may or may not be too soon, nobody knows. When my fiance and I first started dating we got an apartment together after 3 weeks. We're still going strong and we're getting married in July. If you believe your relationship is strong enough to handle it and he does to than go for it. Just remember, couples get into fights more often when they're together all the time, but if the relationship is strong you can work through them. Good luck.
2007-12-06 07:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt hurt to give it a try, but i would definatley move out if things start to go down hill otherwise you might end up breaking up over something stupid, i ve been with my fiance now for 5 years and we moved in together when i was 18 and he was 19 we had only been together about a year, and now we are engaged and still very happily in love.
2007-12-06 07:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by KIMBERLY H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 5 months is a good enough time to move in, but maybe it is a little better to go with ur parents and wait a lil bit longer maybe a year or so.
2007-12-06 07:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Amber™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well take into consideration that you have only known this man for 5 months. Take some more time to get to really know him first. I would follow my heart and since you are already thinking its too soon. I would go with that. good luck in whatever you decide.
2007-12-06 07:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by LOVELY25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows how your relationship will end up. But I was with my b.f for 3 years and we started lving together after 1 year.
We're not together anymore....
You make the best decision you can make and go with it....It's unlikely that you two will actually stay together for the rest of your lives but it IS possible. So move in together if you want to, just don't completely expect everything to always go smoothly...You see more of a person after you live with them.....
2007-12-06 07:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by mags2313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him that much, why not, maybe you should do it for a little to experiment and see how it turns out. If it doesnt gie it time, but since both of you want to, it should be fine. When a couple gets along so well moving in doesnt really affect them
2007-12-06 07:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by *kitty* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, really consider what a commitment you are going to make. I moved in with my ex after 8 months, and I was your age. Your parents might be right, don't ever count their opinion out. And another thing, if you are having some questions about it, maybe it is best to wait.
2007-12-06 07:15:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋