What's are the best ways to avoid and or get out of confrontational/harassing situations at school?

Question

Yesterday I was harassed by two girls that I never even met before. I was in line at school getting my lunch and they started to jiggle my backpack. They told me that I should my sh*t inside, not on the outside pockets. They were cussing and treating me as if I did something wrong to them. Everytime I would defend myself they would harass me more.

What are the best ways to avoid and or get out of confrontational situations at school?

I am in high school. There were no adults present at the time. What should I say to get someone to leave me alone but without making them want to bully me even more?

I am 16 and as far as I know, there aren't any self-defense classes available for me 'til I'm 18. I don't want to fight I because I wwould get hurt and in trouble in the process.

Answer 1

a long time ago we moved and I started at a new school (Jr High) and while waiting in the lunch line (why do these things always happen in the lunch line??) this girl comes up to me and asks " do you wanna fight me??!" I was like what do I do? I had never had such a confrontation before, so I said in a stern voice, "first of all I am wearing a dress, and second I dont even know you", she said "ok" and walked off, we had some how become friends by high school and I had a couple times chased her off other victims she would bully.

so be stern and say something like "I dont know you two, therefore have no reason to deal with either of you" etc...

Answer 2

Next time someone grabs your back pack, that is a physical attack on you. I would attack back as fiercly as I could. Even if you lose the fight, they will never bother you again because they know you will fight back. But try to win. The fight will be broken up because there will be people around... no one will really get hurt. You might get slapped on the wrist by the principle, but make sure they no that you have been harassed and phsically assalted first.

I know a lot of people here might disagree.

I am sorry that you are going through this. This situation might change you, but you'll be stronger for it.

Answer 3

The best defense is to ignore harassment and bullies. They only can continue when you give them more to work from. Move away from them as quickly as possible but never confront. Confrontation is a no-win situation for the victim.

Answer 4

Just invisualize yourself walking up to them and punching them in the face and getting away with it. That usually starts to put a smile on your face. Then don't worry about what they say or think. They hafta get a rise out of someone, its you, so be it. You obviously can't escape it. However if you feed into their harassing ways then they got what they wanted. You don't want to give people what they want when they're hurting you. So what you do is just ignore it completely. If you hear them saying weird stuff to you, just smile and keep on going. Unless they start getting physical, then you take it to a principal.

Answer 5

I put up with this ALOT from grade school, through high school, and a little in college (more mature/ educated crowd).

I found that busting the $#!+ out of the bully's nose, until it bled, and they freaked out that I fought back, did the trick.

That would usually put a halt to the bullying, until some other @$$ wanted a piece of me.

Who says fighting never solved anything??!! They were so wrong!

Answer 6

I'm sorry you have to put up with that. Seems like people like to gang up and pick on others. If you see either of them alone I guarantee they won't do anything to you. Just wondering if this happened in college or high school? If it's in college, I would have reported them. I am shocked people don't stop others from doing this. Best thing to do is avoid them if you can, if they start up at you again, just ignore them, the more you try to fight them the more they will pick on you. One way to make them mad is to play a mind game and just start laughing at them. They won't like that.

Answer 7

Just say straight out to them "I am sorry your self esteem is so low that you have to pick on someone else so you feel bigger and cooler infront of other people, what a shame!" Just don't stand for it, but also don't fall to their lever. If they jiggle your backpack again, turn around and ask them "Seriously do you not have anything better to do?" if they say no, then say that they are "Well that is pitiful"

Answer 8

A lot of people might say ignore them, but that can backfire on you. It happened to me when I was in High School, this girls kept bothering me, and the only advise I got was ignore them and that only made it worse. But it works for most people, so you should try that first. And if doesn't work, call me and we'll key their cars!! Just kidding!!=P

Answer 9

are you a boy or girl? anyway, i know this geeky (but very smart boy) and when ever people say stuff to him he comes back with very smart come backs, its really clever, they shut up cos there thick, like most bullies. Stand up for your self or get your own back, show them not to mess with you, you could also ignore it but that doesn't always work... if you need any revemnge tack tics ask:D i'm can be such a *****:D

Answer 10

You will not be able to stop kids from picking on you that is unavoidable. However if you are a bigger person you would slap the Sh*t out of those little bithes and make a name for your self. Just kidding just pick a group of friends you like and as long as you are with them, they will get your back.
Then they can help you kik the Sh*t out of those stupid f*cking little Wh*res. What school are you at. I will go choke a b*tch. (lol) sorry I get worked up cuase I know what it was like.