My boyfriend saw me kissing someone else & has ended it. How would you have reacted??

Question

Well basically me & my boyfriend (now ex boyfriend) went on a night out & had alot to drink...we ended up in a bar and apparantly i kissed another guy right infront of my boyfriend. The thing is I can't even remember doing it & I can't even remember what the guy looked like....I drank way too much that night & this has now made me vow I'm never drinking like that again. ANyway he flipped out completely & when we got back to the flat he told me to leave. I said sorry so many times & said I couldn't remember doing it cause the drink made me black out (I know thats not an excuse but its not like a consciously made a decision to snog this other guy). Now the thing is i really love him. & it's broken my heart completely...He's the only one for me. Whenever i call him he always answers & we talk, which is a good sign don't you think? He says we may get back together in the future & he just needs space, do you reckon i still have a chance? That was the worst night of my life..........

The thing is now I have had to move back to my home town which is about a 3hour drive away as i had nowhere to go when i left the flat...do you think this could survive a long distance?

Answer 1

I would have dropped you too.

People always say stuff like "I was drunk...I didn't know what I was doing." I don't buy that a second.

Take example: I assume you are straight....how much would you have to drink before you would have sex with a girl...not just a kiss, I mean full on sex? I'm guessing your answer is "not possible, I would not be so drunk I would not know what I was doing to do that." Exactly...meaning, you knew what you were doing.

I would not go out with a girl who I'd have to keep in check and need to watch after. If you can't be faithful, I won't go out with you. Period.

Answer 2

Your boyfriend had the correct reaction. Kissing someone else because you were drunk does not mean that the offense is okay. It def shows that you don't need to drink or at least drink a lot because what you showed your ex is that you can not be trusted when it comes to alcohol. The fact that you kissed the guy right in front of your boyfriend is even worse. He probably is questioning how many times you have actually done that sort of thing when he wasn't around. He sounds like he still cares about you but the trust is obvioulsy gone. It is so easy to lose trust but hard as heck to gain it back. Just because you don't remember doing it does not make it okay. Take it as a life lesson. The ball is completely in his court and there is nothing you can do about the situation except wait it out. If he wants you back he will say so but since you have already apologized numerous times then let it go and give him time to think. Personally, if he didn't make a decision within a month about you two then I suggest you move on. Though you are the offender in the situation, you apologized and there is no point in allowing yourself to be strung along for it. As far as the long distance thing....if may work but I guarantee you that he won't be feeling as guilty if he decides to "hook up" with someone else while you are gone. Sorry to say but that is the way you made it. Good luck.

Answer 3

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My boyfriend saw me kissing someone else & has ended it. How would you have reacted??
Well basically me & my boyfriend (now ex boyfriend) went on a night out & had alot to drink...we ended up in a bar and apparantly i kissed another guy right infront of my boyfriend. The thing is I can't even remember doing it & I can't even remember what the guy looked like....I drank way...

Answer 4

wheather you get back together or not...hopefully you have learned from that mistake....CUT BACK ON THE DRINKING. alcohol makes a person feel less inhibited, and act out on things you may normally have control over, like kissing someone. wheather you remember it or not, that doesn't make it less pain full for your ex boyfriend. maybe over time he will see how you have changed and will be able to trust you again. you cant turn off the love you have for someone...he is very hurt and you need to regain his trust in you. that will take a long time if ever, meanwhile show yourself and everyone else how you have changed and don't drink so heavily that you black out.

Answer 5

it's a good sign that he still answers your phone and talks to you. like he said, he need some time and space for now as he need to sort that thing out of his mind.just give him time, if he does love you, he will come back to you.
are you working in the town where your bf are? if you have a job, can you afford to find a flat to live on your own? or even share house or something.
if you two are meant to be, distance isn't a matter. it would be better of course, if you can stay where he is, at least you have more time/chances to sort things out together. remember, don't push him though, he need time!

good luck.

Answer 6

Yeah sure, you blacked out and didn't you were kissing someone else. If I was him, I wouldn't go back out with you, because cheating(kissing someone is consider cheating to me) on someone is like stabbing that person in the heart.

Answer 7

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 8

I think your boyfriend was right to dump you, not only did you cheat but you did it right in front of him, being drunk is no excuse, how would you feel if he had kissed another girl? Give him space dont pressure him and maybe you to will make it.

Answer 9

Can't blame the drinking, as guys try that 1 all the time. And you kissed another guy right in front of him, sorry you would history.

Answer 10

I would have flipped also. Keep apologizing and crawling, he's just gonna make you suffer for a while then he'll take you back when you tell him that you'll never get into that state again.