She broke up with me cause romantic feeling lost? Came out of nowhere! Help understanding this?

Question

I am 29 she 25. We hav been together for 3 1/2 months. Recently we have been having some issues with her not being that into our relationship, due to school work, job stress and life stress. She told me that space is inportant to her. She said just give her time she will get over her weirdness and lets take this slow. We went away this past weekend and all was fine askinhg me what i want for christmas etc.. come yesterday she calls me telling me she doesnt want to do this anymore she lost the romantic spark, lost feelings in her heart and she will probably regret ending it this, but she wants to still talk and hang out. She says she is doing this now cause it aint fair to me how i put in so much and i have done nothing wrong. She always said how good i was to her and amazing i am. She recently got off birthcontrol about 3 weeks. I have told her i love her. What do you guys think, does she just needing time to miss me and figure it out or is it really over. thanks

We met 2 months after her bad break up of a 2 ½ year relationship which she was treated badly. About two weeks ago she reviled to me that she was really mesed up by her ex and I think never dealt with the pain. She just stated she thought things were moving to fast for us and that we should slow it done. Also in a way the fastness kinda freaked her out. She just wanted to take it slow and develop a great friendship and get to know eachother. So I don’t know if her ending it with me is a way to build that friendship without relatiosnhip pressure or what? Ladies and men any advice would be great. I’m just really looking for how to handle this to have her comeback. I do love her honestly and truly.

Answer 1

You may want to recognize you don't love her, not in 3 months, if you loved her you would wish her the best and encourage her to leave you and go for her happines.

She left you because you aren't her type, you have been the nice guy and the yes guy to her. By telling me who you are is possible to know who your partner is, since you are a nice guy, she is not your type, is the type for the other kind of guy, or hasn't she been treated badly and lasted 2 and 1/2 years?.

Anyway, your best is to accept it and move on, you didn't do anything wrong, in somehow that was cool from you, let her go for what she wants for her life and concentrate in your life. That kind of woman are looking for something different. Just be yourself.

Answer 2

If you truly care for her, give her some space. She is recently out of a bad relationship, let her heal. You two should stay as friends. It doesn't hurt. Go out as friends (you can still pick up the tab)

If you two go out and have a good night, it doesn't hurt to send her some flowers the next day. (something that says "thank you for being a great friend). But don't do it every-time. She will feel "crowded"

Don't say the words "I love you" for a while. That is an automatic "freak out". Let her say them to you first.

Being off of birth control will affect her. She is under a lot of stress. Give her time!

Answer 3

If you really want her back, then give her the space she needs to get her head together. She sounds very confused about both relationships. Bad guys make it hard for good guys. Let her take the lead, in how this advances. If she goes the other way, then there is not much you can do, except let her go. It would not work out if her head is not into the relationship. I hope that she remains friends with you and finds out that you are the one, but it might take awhile.

Answer 4

i am going through almost the same situation right now...except i'm 17 and she's 16....she said the same thing and says she just wants to be friends now.....i don't know exactly what it is but maybe she just needs time to think...it's probably starting to get serious and she probably needs time to think if she really wants to be with you for the rest of her life....see mine is too shy and doesn't want to tell me anything...she just wants to be friends....just ask her...if she won't tell you at least you tried and the best you can do is wait...