If you are engaged/married and you get a wedding invitation that is addressed to only you and not your fiance/spouse, is it rude to call and say something or ask why he/she isn't included?
2007-12-06 06:05:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No this is not a real situation. Just a question. I just sent out wedding invites and was thinking. I tried really hard to research people's marital status etc...
2007-12-06 06:15:53 · update #1
It is always rude to invite a guest to someone else's party. I'm sorry, but it's true.
If the person who gets the invitation is married or engaged, it's rude of the person who sent the invitations. However.....two "rudes don't make a right." :-) If I got an invitation to a wedding and my husband was excluded, I'd simply send an RSVP saying that I couldn't attend. No problem!
2007-12-06 06:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by Woods 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It would definitely be rude to show up to the event with an uninvited guest, but I don't think it's rude to ask the bride or groom if you may bring your partner. Instead of saying 'why didn't you invite my husband?', just say 'I noticed that the invitation was addressed only to me. Would it be alright with you if my husband comes with me, or are you already at your guest limit?'
Invitations typically include long-term partners, but if the wedding is that of a co-worker or casual acquaintance, that person may not know your relationship status.
2007-12-06 06:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I wasn't sure about the marital status of someone I was inviting, I invited that person "and guest." One of my husband's friends was going through a divorce at the time of our wedding and several others were dating people whose names I just couldn't remember.
2007-12-06 07:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
Frankly there are much more important things to worry about in the world, so I wouldn't be bothered by it.
If "and guest" was not on the invitation and I was engaged or married, I'd call them up and ask if I can bring my fiance/husband. If not, most likely I'd send my regrets. If so, then there you go!
2007-12-07 13:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, yes, I think it's rude. If my husband wasn't invited, honestly, I wouldn't go.
If someone loves me enough to want to invite me to celebrate in their wedding day, then they obviously know me. And they would know that I'm married, and include my husband in the invitation.
And I can't cut slack to those who may offer the explanation of someone else helping with the invitations. When I got married, my husband, my MIL, my mom and I all sat down together with our lists and DOUBLE-CHECKED every single person - to make sure we had s/o's names correct (spouses, fiancees and boyfriends/girlfriends), or that our single guests had an "and guest" added to the invitation so that the could bring a date, if they wished.
2007-12-06 06:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't call, if the person's parents did the invitations and say you aren't married they wouldn't know to invite your boyfriend. if you are married, maybe they just didn't know his first name (I've had this problem filling out christmas cards for old co-workers I worked with a few years ago).
Just remember if you aren't married they can't make the invitation to your boyfriend and you because it would be worded weirdly. If you are well... I don't know lol I try to fill things out properly but mistakes are common in those areas!
If all else fails just call and make sure you can bring your boyfriend/spouse. I can't imagine them having a problem
2007-12-06 06:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its rude of the person who invited you to not invite your spouse... but it also out of line for you to call and ask why unless your that comfortable and good friends with the person that they won't take offense. I think you should ask your spouse if he finds if you go alone and if he does maybe say something... if not when you go make sure you metion to the bride and groom that your spouse would have LOVED to come to make them feel bad. :] HA HA.. Good luck! Hope that helps a lil.
2007-12-06 06:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by brneyedgrrl80 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is it someone close to you? If it was someone close who obviously knew I was engaged/married, then I might call and ask. But if it is someone that you barely know, they might have not known or not paid attention when addressing it. I wouldn't call and ask in that situation, I would probably just not go.
2007-12-06 06:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no way.. not rude at all!! if you are getting married.. or ESPECIALLY married, you have (or will) become one.. that is what the word "marry" means.. DO NOT GO to a wedding that your fiance or husband was not invited to!!!!! def call them and ask them if they made a mistake!!!!!!!! that is so rude for them not to invite them!! i dont care if they are trying to cut costs or whatever.. your husband is part of you.. he is your other half.. more than even blood! you are one person.
2007-12-06 06:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Usually when people RSVP they let you know the number of people that are coming with them,if they call most would ask if its okay if they bring someone with them.....Oh COngrats and Good luck
2007-12-06 06:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋