I'm depressed and anxious! Could I heal from my anxiety and depression with..?

Question

It seems like something that started in middle school and got worse during high school. Got my diploma at 18.

I'm anxious in general and feel VERY depressed over all the mistakes and wrongdoings (basically the way I was) back then. I even feel WORSE because I wasn't supportive with my Dad in helping us move away from this house we don't like in this town I don't like in this state I don't particularly like. We could've lived in Bellingham, Washington starting earlier 2005 but I wasn't too supportive because I was so anxious about being alone and castigated as the "new kid" in whatever high school I would've attended there. Now I realize that those feelings were stupid and we coulud've moved there. I don't like the life we have here. I feel pretty guilty and very depressed. I kinda know exactly what "could've been" and that makes me horrible.

Could years of psychological therapy interspersed with some medicine help me? Every minute feels like a living hell

I remember being pretty much computer, game, and internet addicted back then too.

I feel very bad about knowing now that I was being a 'pathological' something or other too during those days. I remember addiction, depression, anxiety, sleep problems.

I was I could go back in time and do it all over again. I now know exactly what to do and how to change. But I know that isn't possible. I feel like I'm living in hell with the knowledge of what I could've done and the guilt/regret of not doing that/being that way.

The decisions weren't up to me but my reaction/lack of support definitely played a role.

Answer 1

therapy and medicine definitely helped me. good luck

Answer 2

This is something that happened a long time ago let it go stop living in the past and move on with your life. You don't need therapy or medication. If you don't like where you live then move your a man get your own place and a job.

Answer 3

Those decisions were up to your parents. If they asked you and let you make decisions re moving, they have some serious problems with parenting.
Please go see your doctor. Print out the above post and take it with you. You won't have to do "years of psychotherapy". Probably a month of medication and some time seeing a therapist will improve your life beyond your belief at this time.

Answer 4

I've been down a similar road as you. If you would like to hear my story and what I did about it, feel free to drop me an email.

Answer 5

yes it could help you, therapy can be very helpful. best thing is to talk to your doctor who can suss out wants wrong and point you in the right direction.

Answer 6

you are carrying around alot of emotional garbage from your past, and it is causing your depression and anxiety. I can help you help yourself to get rid of this emotional baggage, and get on with your life. Email me.

Answer 7

Praise be to Allaah.

In al-Saheehayn it was reported from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say, when he felt distressed:

“La ilaaha ill-Allaah al-‘Azeem ul-Haleem, Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb il-‘arsh il-‘azeem, Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb is-samawaati wa Rabb il-ard wa Rabb il-‘arsh il-kareem (there is no god except Allaah, the All-Mighty, the Forbearing; there is no god except Allaah, the Lord of the Mighty Throne; there is no god except Allaah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the earth and Lord of the noble Throne).”

And it was reported from Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say, when something upset him:

“Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoom, bi Rahmatika astagheeth (O Ever-Living One, O Everlasting One, by Your mercy I seek help).”

And it was reported that Asmaa’ bint ‘Umays (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me: “Shall I not teach you some words to say when you feel distressed? ‘Allaah, Allaah, Rabbee laa ushriku bihi shay’an (Allaah, Allaah, my Lord, I do not associate anything with Him).’”

It was reported from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No person suffers any anxiety or grief, and says:

‘Allaahumma innee ‘abduka wa ibn ‘abdika wa ibn amatika, naasiyati bi yadika, maadin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka, as’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘andak an taj’ala al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety)’

- but Allaah will take away his sorrow and grief, and give him in their stead joy.”



Al-Kalim al-Tayyib by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, edited by Shaykh al-Albaani, p. 72