Toddler sleeping in my bed instead of his. how do i change that?

Question

have a 2 year old that now has his own Toddler Bed. He is still sleeping in my room however. I need some advice on how to get him to stay sleeping in his own bed. He is always getting in bed with me and when I go to put him back in his bed he cries until I let him back in my bed. HELP!!!!!I need my bed back.

Answer 1

SIMPLE! Just don't let him back in your bed and keep putting him back on his!

Answer 2

I only know of two ways to solve this problem. Both approaches work. Both involve you and your husband deciding, absolutely, that your son needs to sleep in his own bed every night. The fast method is to tell your son that from now on he needs to sleep in his own bed, then put him to bed, and leave. Expect him to cry as much as an hour or more the first night. Usually, the crying tapers off after three or four nights and stops completely by a week.

Some parents who are uncomfortable with letting their children cry that long go in to the child's bedroom every 20 to 30 minutes. That's fine, as long as you don't stay more than about 20 seconds, don't try to calm your child all the way down, and certainly don't take him into your bed. If you give in even once you make the process of teaching him to go to sleep quietly in his own bed much more difficult.

The slower approach involves your sitting in your child's room without interacting, both at bedtime and in response to the mid-night waking; gradually, you move further and further away, until you are out of the room altogether. This approach is often harder for parents to pull off. For one thing, there's a lot of sitting and doing nothing else. For another thing, the crying tends to go on for longer.

Although it's easy to say "let him cry," I don't mean to suggest that this is a simple problem. Many parents find it almost impossible to bear listening to their child crying. If there is some reason you feel your child cannot be exposed to the frustration of being left alone at night, you might want to consult with his doctor. Sometimes having a supportive doctor on the team can help parents do what they need to do.

Answer 3

I know what you are going through. I have 3 kids of my own and I had a really hard time with this myself. I tried putting them in their own bed and letting them cry it out but that did not work. I tried sitting in their till they fell asleep but yet again that did not work. Here what I did. I have a 2yr old, a 4yr old, and a 6yr old. I put a blanket in floor at the end of my bed and for the first two night I had to assure them that I was right there and it was ok and to just lay down and go back to sleep. After about 3days all three of my kids now sleep in their own beds. I will tell you what I think that it is and that is you have given in and let your child sleep with you at night that it has now became his security. I know your thinking that I am probably crazy but hey it never hurts to try something new. My sister had the same problem. she told me about this and I thought she was nuts, but I was desperate to have my bed back, and Now All 3 of my kids sleep in their own bed and I have my own bed back.

Answer 4

I had a simliar problem...what I did with my almost 3 year old is develop a bedtime routine, time for bed, put jammies on, tuck in, read book, good night...so she knew what was coming and we also made a chart, every night that she slept in her own bed all night long we put a sticker on her chart, when she filled it up she got to pick out a movie to rent and a special treat. This motivated her to be a big girl and sleep in her own bed. Maybe a tactic like this will help. It also helped when she was happy to be in her bed, she had a special animal that was only allowed in her bed and a Dora pillow that she could only use in her bed.

Answer 5

get him something he loves like a blanket with whatever he likes on it for my son it was Mario and a night light.
keep telling him that he has to sleep in his big boy bed
you have to keep putting him back in his bed every time he comes in your room no matter how much he fights stay with him until he falls asleep read him story's in his bed it will take a long time but he will do it , hope this helps

Answer 6

I guess you would have to try everyone's ideas if your child wakes you up when he comes into your room.
I have 3 kids. When they were 5,4 and 2, we moved into a new house. The 2 older kids' rooms were upstairs. my room was downstairs and at the back of the house. the baby slept in a downstairs room.
During the night all 3 kids would climb into my bed and sleep with me. They never woke me up. We got up toegether in the morning.
I never made an issue of it because the bed was king sized and there was plenty of room and they never woke me up.
They eventually stopped by themselves.
I realized this may not work for you. I was just sharing my story.

Answer 7

You made it easy for yourself in the beginning, and now it's hard on your Son! What sense does that make? He should never have been in your bed in the first place!! You have to keep putting him back in bed, even if it's 50 times and not back down even if he cries for hours! It's the only way to break him of this! It should only take a night or two of you doing this to make him understand that you aren't going to change your mind and let him back in bed. Every time you give in, it prolongs the problem and tells him you don't mean what you say! Please don't repeat this mistake if you have another child!!!

Answer 8

You have to let him cry it out and if he goes into your bed keep moving him back to his room. It is hard but it will work if you keep it up. My brother-in-law had this problem when my neice was 4! It worked for him, it was heartbreaking hearing her cry for so long but you have to do what you have to do. Good Luck!

Answer 9

When its time for him to go to bed.stay in his room with him until he falls alsleep and then sneak into your bed.Thats what i have to do with my 4 yr old at night time since she got a new bed.he just isnt used to his new bed yet and is scared.so show him support at night time and stay in his room and let him know that your still there(mine asks me over and over until she falls alsleep if im still there).then wait about 10 mins after he falls alsleep then sneak off to your bed....lol.but make sure he has a night light in his room and his door is cracked enough to see him in bed when you walk by his room.I know its a pain in the butt doing this everynight but it does help both you and them to get a good nights rest.my daughter will stay in her bed all night unless she wakes up to go to the bathroom then she will wake me up asking if i can lay down with her in her room.so ill go lay down with her until shes back alsleep then go back to my bed.Since my daughter had her grown up bed for 2 weeks she has only woke up crying for me 2 times.
good luck on what ever you decide to do.your going have to do this over again once they out grow the toddler bed....lol

Answer 10

either:
A) don't let him back in your bed even if he cries or
B) go sleep in his room until he falls asleep then you leave to your room.