do you believe in LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over 9 months. but i might have go to a college out of state and he is in college in this state and cannot move. do you believe that long distance relationships work? why or why not?

there is no right or wrong answer, i am just curious to see different point of views.

Answer 1

I believe in them, becuase i've been in one for 4 years now. We started at 16 and we were together for about 9 months before he had to leave to go back home. He lives in Germany and i live in US. Its definately not easy but for us its worth it because we know that it wont be forever and because we love and care for eachother. It takes a lot of communication, trust and honesty so as long as you both can do that then you are off to a good start. People say that cheating is an issue but remember that cheating happens to couples who get too see eachother everyday so its not about the distance its about the people in the relationship. So yeah i believe they can work if the people involved are serious about it. Email me if you have more questions and good luck i hope things work out :)

Answer 2

Only if you believe in trust. My boyfriend and I both dated our high school sweethearts through most of college (4+ years) and look back on it now as a huge mistake. College is a time of change and growing and in my opinion, not the right time to see if long distance relationships work. A proper time to explore long distance relationships is when both people are mature, have established mutual trust and are living apart for a good reason other than college choices.

Answer 3

It depends on how strong your relationship is and the personality of both of you. If your boyfriend truly loves you or you love him dearly, no matter where you are, the relationship should be the same or even stronger since you don't see each other often. On the other hand, if one of you have a wander eye then any temptation would change your relationship. Also trust is a big factor in long distance relationship. If you trust each other then you have nothing to worry about.

Communication is a key. Just don't be jealous of accuse each other for something that didn't happen. That will kill the relationship real fast.

Answer 4

I believe long distance relationships can work. It takes patience, trust, commitment, and most importantly communication. After divorcing a dead beat at the tender age of 21, I ended up dating an Army buddy of mine. We had been just friends for about a year, so I knew him pretty well. Almost a year later, my enlistment was up, I was heading home to Louisiana and my buddy was off to Iraq. Somehow, we made it work. He called whenever he could and we exchanged emails and letters. It also helped that we had the same circle of friends, so I had intel on whether he was being faithful or not. A month after he made it back to the states, he drove over 700 miles to come and get me. We've been together for six years now, and we share three beautiful little girls (two from my marriage) and are very happy. Since leaving the Army, my beau now has a job that requires him to go on the road for long stretches of time, and it hasn't affected our relationship at all. In our case, distance does make the heart grow fonder.....

My advice to you, if you think the guy is worth it, try as hard as you can to make it work. Keep phone calls to minimum, it can get very boring. Meet up on messenger, play games together, go see the same movies at the same time so you can discuss them, and let your "girlfriends" keep you busy. I'm a true romantic, so I believe that if it's real love, it will work itself out. Good luck!!

Answer 5

They could work if people were mature, but this is college here. Trust me, even if it works for awhile you will eventually break-up. Even couples who go to the same school rarely make it the whole 4 years. It is a time to be young, a time to find out who you, are and what you like. And that means dating sometimes. It is the last place you have that will be full of people your own age just waiting to meet you as a friend or other. It's such a huge question. Is it possible? yes, with difficulty. Is it advisable? no. Not because your love wasn't true or pure or meant to be, but because you're young. I loved my high school boyfriend with all my heart, and tried to make it work. But I discovered so much and so did he, and we broke up, and for a looong time I was heartbroken. But now I'm glad I was on my own, that I did my own exploring and adventures. Because now when I commit I know what I'm missing or not missing. I have no regrets or questions. I've been there and feel that because I was open to life I can now make better, more informed decisions. It isn't just about sex, or dating, it's about taking chances that you might not otherwise take. Relationships are wonderful, but they also put you in a comfort zone. Sometimes, even though it hurts, you need to be uncomfortable to grow as a person. but don't listen to me. See for yourself what the answer is.

Answer 6

Yes I do believe in long distance relationship. But it takes a lot of hard work, trust, faith, understanding and maturity. If you don't trust each other, it's not gonna work. My hubby and I had a long distance relationship back then but now we're together and I can honestly tell you that it's not easy. But if both of you are truly commited to each other and not tempted and would just want to spend the rest of your lives just with each other, well then it's going to work. But you know what, you're still young also and your lives are sorta just starting out for both of you so marriage is still out of the picture. Just enjoy, study hard and if you're really meant for each other then distance is not an issue.

Answer 7

YES, long distance relationships can work. My uncle and his GF were living in different CONTINENTS. They sure got a lot tired and spent lots of money to see each other but they were in love and you can't choose who you'll love. Our generation is lucky, we have internet. You can even see your boyfriend with using those little, lovely web cams. You don't even have to pay phone bills if you have an internet connection.

I know some couples who live in the same street but can't get together more than once a week because of their super-busy schedules, different shifts...etc. Long distance may be a problem but there are and will be problems in all relationships.

Answer 8

Yes but it is hard i am in a long distance relationship right now. But if you truly love each other and think he is the one then most likely it will work. You just have to keep in contact over the phone and make sure you see each other at some point. Good luck.

Answer 9

I've been in one for two months now and yes, it's hard but if you truly love each other it will work. Probably one of the most important things is to talk to each other every day. We talk for a few hours a day everyday which you might not be able to do but even a ten minute conversation is so important to maintain the relationship. And of course all the other obvious things like staying loyal, trusting each other, being honest...

Answer 10

I sure do.. because I'm in one myself.. we live over 900 miles apart.. talk on the phone a lot and see each other over breaks and during the summer.. and I can do it because I love him and I wouldn't wanna be with anyone else.. so yes I do believe in long distance relationships. If you really want it to work between yall I know yall can.
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