it is getting very old i had dated him for 4 1/2 year the first 2 were great years and now in the last two years he majorly screwed up our credit scores and our chances by doing drugs and alcohol and be fired from like 6 different jobs. i don't believe him anymore he turned me against my family. and my family is the most important thing to me. how do i tell him to fix our credit that he messed up without my permission by opening like 10 cards in my name. please help advice needed? and be kind.
2007-12-06 04:11:41 · 8 answers · asked by bettyb 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if hes the abusive type you should just move out when hes gone. If hes a type of person you can talk to tell him flat out you want better for your life and hes not fitting that bill! He didnt feel sorry when he does all that garbage to you. You shouldnt take it easy on him!
2007-12-06 04:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by victor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit him down and tell him what's up. Let him know if he doesnt show any improvements as far as getting a job and fixing your credit then it's over. Then your leaving him. But you need to be serious about it. If he loves you and wants to be with you and believes your really done if he dont change, he will start to improve. Otherwise he's just another loser and you need to move on and get what you deserve out of life. plus him turning you against your family, your the only one that has the decision to turn against your family so if you love them so much you need to fix things with you and them. Family is supposed to always be there not your bf's. Good luck~
2007-12-06 12:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha1029 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a deceiving bastard! However, he cant MAKE you turn on your family, especially if they are the most important thing to you, you CHOSE to turn on them, after you believed whatever he put in your ear.
Considering everything that he has done, I'd let it go and move on. Yet, the things that he has done to your credit and what not, will make it awfully hard to repair your financial life and you may need to sit and have a heart to heart with your family and ask for forgiveness. As far as him, I'd be straightforward and let him know that you two are just not compatible and the things that he does has shown you that he is not the type of boyfriend, or future husband you are in the market for. He's untrustworthy, selfish and has proven to be very weak minded and obviously doesn't care about you and your feelings, or your life. To stay with him would be crazy. Best wishes!
-Knowledge24
2007-12-06 12:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Knowledge24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life isnt that easy. You might have to just leave him and fix things on your own. He isnt going to fix things when he has you. Threatening him isnt going to help either. Trust me, my ex boyfriend opened up a credit card under my name and when it came in the mail, I was surprised he would do something shady like that to me. After we broke up cause he cheated, he owed me about $1200 which he said he would pay back but of course he never did.
2007-12-06 12:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by solelone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can't fix your credit, only you can. I would just come out and say it. "Because of the issues of the past two years, we will never be a couple again."
2007-12-06 12:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want him to fix your credit, telling him you don't love him, and never will again might not be a good idea.
2007-12-06 12:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by WJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick him out of the house, make him go live with mommy and cut him off..... find someone bettter and has a lot of money to help fix your credit..... it will be hard, and painful but you have to
2007-12-06 12:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave. that's all im going to say. once he realizes you're gone then things might change for the better.
2007-12-06 12:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ashes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋