ok a little back ground. i got divorced 4 years ago. at the time i was a wreck so i gave full custody of our son to the ex. but mow im worried he maybe being neglected with her. she lives with a guy who she has another child with but there are no longer a couple. yet this guy is the one who watches my kid most of the time, and he is a drunk. this guys brother is also living with them now and im told he also does drugs. this all really bothers me. not only that but he almost never sees his mom. he is in school then his mom works at night, and i have him almost every weekend. In fact the last weekend she was suppose to have our son, she left him with the guy shes living with and went out of state for a booty call. i cant say he is in physical danger but i dont feel that hes being taken care of that well either. i cant afford a layer is there anything i can do?
2007-12-06 04:01:37 · 3 answers · asked by jedidiaha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i do have a court order stateing that i only have custody between friday evening and sunday evening. now i dont always have him every weekend but probaly 3 out of 4. i also get him every wedesday night for a few hours and thats not in the court order. also i normaly have him the full wek of thanksgiving and sometines another week during the year.
her kids use to be her life, im half wondering if shes not into drugs her self. i asked her if i could have him over christmas even though its not my year and she said sure, that would make her life easyer. i cant understand how a parent would not want there kids around for the holladays.
2007-12-06 04:22:15 · update #1
also he has come strait out and said that he wishes he could live with me. if you ask him why he will tell you he just does not like it at mommys house. he is only 5 so i dont know how much his opinion would count in the courts.
2007-12-06 04:24:50 · update #2
Not an easy question.
First question I have is whether you have the custody order in writing?
That limits you to what you can execute right away.
If you dont then just dont return the kid for visitation, and make her take you to Court. However be careful, make sure your accusations are correct.
The relationship between parent and child should be protected at all costs. Otherwise the kids will do an "end around" and hate you for taking him away from his mother.
It sounds like she doesnt care about the kids that much anyway, I would probe the kid to find out if he would like to live with you for a while and see what kind of reaction you get.
This is not an easy question because there are to many variables.
However DONT SAY BAD THINGS ABOUT THE MOTHER TO HIM. No matter if she is a bad mother or not.
2007-12-06 04:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell everyone, and spread evil rumors about her wrong doings for nothing but a whole lot of drama. Or get some legal advice.
2007-12-06 12:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all......it's lawyer.
secondly, see if you can get legal aid.
Third, if you can't, at least speak to an attorney and see what papers you should file.
Call Childrens protective services if they're all drunk and doing drugs.
2007-12-06 12:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋