My fiance and I live together and until about 3wks ago he was making more then double then me and the primary support for us (thogether we just barly made enough to get by) Now he lost his job Ive picked up some hours, but not enough to live off of, we sold some investments I had and that money is now half way gone. Hes at home feeling sorry for himself and everytime I get worried or upset and talk to him about it he doesnt want to talk abotu it or trys to make me think hes trying hard to find work. There are not many jobs, but I feel like instead of maybe applying for 1 or 2 jobs a day online he should be applying for lots and out driving around filling out apps. I dont want him to get mad at me or give up but he needs motivation because we have a house and car loans to pay for, with the economy so bad it may be really tough to find work even if he does try super hard, How do I motivate him???
2007-12-06 03:59:00 · 13 answers · asked by sarah 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1st method: ( If belive in god)
Pray to HIM regulary 3 times a day along with your routine work and also your husband, if he agrees.
2nd method
He should give more than 2 to 3 interviews and even more. For this he has to go through Naukri.com and job consultant. Here one more thing you have to do is to apply his cv through internet.
I understand this situation very much as I myself has to face it.
Motivation, enthuasim and all of positive attitude is needed at this time.
2007-12-06 04:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Prince 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything to motivate him because motivation has to come from the self... Maybe there's something more that's bothering him aside from being jobless... why don't you ask him that? Ask him how he is or something... Don't talk about finding a job just yet or he might think you're nagging... Show him that you're concerned for him and that you sympathize... Ease in the conversation that you need him to help finance the both of you.. be careful with the words you use and the tone of voice to avoid misunderstandings and arguements.. always keep physical contact with him so that he'll know how you feel.. give him a kiss or a hug afterwards to show him that you appreciate him for sharing his thoughts and undivided attention...
if he truly cares for your relationship, i think it'll be motivation enough...
2007-12-06 04:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by bella*muerte 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend little more time with him like a good friend and try in your own sweet way to make him realise the gravity of the situation.Give him some confidence which is so vital.Tell him you would appreciate if he is in a "less paid"job.....it simply is a passing phase of the economy and it will take a little more time to boost up the economy soon after the Election is over.
2007-12-06 04:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by bikashroy9 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I try to stay cheerful. Offer suggestions in a chirpy "Hey! I had an awesome idea!" kind of voice. So instead of saying "Why don't you just apply at (name of company)". Try saying: Hey, your qualified for (qualification), I bet (Name of Company) is looking for people who do that all the time. Maybe you should give them a call. Let me look up the number...."
Also, suggest applying to a temp agency. He'll probably get some holiday-fill-in jobs soon, and temp positions can turn into temp-to-hire (mine did!)
2007-12-06 04:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by Molly B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him he needs to lift his game. It's not fair to leave it all to you. Maybe if he has to go without the things that make his life comfortable whilst sitting at home, he might get bored enough to actually want to work again. No computer games, foxtell and to ice the cake you could serve tin baked beans a few nights a week for a while.
2007-12-06 04:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by Not just a pretty face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok the thing is hes in a rut we all get in them. but the only thing you can do is tell him honey we have bills to pay, a house to pay, car loan, food to get.... i need to be able to help you help yourself to get a job or we are gonna lose everything so whatever you need me to do to help i will. but you need to get out there and find one not sit on the net and fill them out and hope you get one. people will take youlots more seriously in person. and we cant make it on what we have...i cant be the only one working you need to get a job asap
2007-12-06 04:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to give him an ultimatum or get rid of him. If he is slacking now, what makes you think he won't in the future.
This also tells you how he handles a crisis.-Not very well.
He can't be strong when he needs to be.
Good Luck to you, I hope it works out.
2007-12-06 04:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him exactly how you're feeling. Don't sugarcoat it but be really nice. The unemployed tend to be sensitive lol so yup.
2007-12-06 04:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe spend a bit more time with him?
2007-12-06 04:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Fizziwig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him like a Friend
2007-12-06 04:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋