Ive decided to quit going to church becase churches are shallow and hypocritical and fake?

Question

what i mean is, I mostly have attended big evangelical mega churches. And every sunday the pastors more or less teach/preach the same things over and over again. And these churches seem a mile wide but an inch deep. And they always want your money too. And they are always so concerned about having a big/better church building too. Any ideas, thoughts, or suggestoins?????

Answer 1

Shallowness is a characteristic of most religion, yes. I agree.

Do you understand why this is the case? Imagine a truly spiritual, deep church that challenged its members to think differently and to give up their easy lives. How long do you think such a church would last? How many adherents do you think it would attract? Not many, that's for sure.

Like any other organization, a church needs to appeal to large numbers of people - "the masses" - and not so much to the rare folks at the upper tail of the distribution. In fact, if a church is going to tailor an appeal to one of the tails of the distribution, it makes far more sense to go after the lower tail - the desperate folks who are not functioning well in this life, and who are likely to grasp at something like religion. And of course that's exactly where churches go.

Answer 2

Everyone is a hypocrite....that's a reality of life. Everyone says one thing and does another. If someone says they don't, they are a lying hypocrite.

I've had the same mega-church experience as you, to a certain extent. That's why there are smaller churches. Try one of them. They are still churches filled with hypocrites, but more family-like and personal and when you go there there will only be one more hypocrite in the house.

I've got news for you, McDonalds only wants your money, so does the Department Store, the car dealership and everyone else. Why don't you refuse to go to those places? When you give money to the church it goes to helping people, many people all over the world. When you give to McDonalds it goes to the owners and the stockholders. Who uses the money better? I care about people so I tithe to the church. I also give money to McDonalds even though that's all they want from me.

Stop going to church because there are hypocrites!??
Are you going to stop breathing because there's smog? Of course not, you're just going to go where there's less of it.

Answer 3

I am in total agreement. I was raised Catholic and never missed church until I got into college. I was so devout that I even went to confession for missing 1 Sunday because I had volunteered to do an March of Dimes walk-a-thon. I was reader during middle school, etc... My grandparents were very devout. As our church grew, there was a lot of infighting. It was separated into 3 factions. English speaking, Cantonese speaking, and Mandarin speaking. All thought they were better and deserved more than the other. As I grew up, I saw that the "elders" of the church, the grand standers, were the ones that were less Christian outside of church. It was all a hypocritical parade. "Look at me, I go to church! Meanwhile, I'm going to steal your business."
I've come to see that it's not where you worship that counts, but that you live your life by the golden rule: do unto others as you would have done unto you. I still pray and talk to God. I still believe in Him. But I don't believe in the preaching and paying. Throughout history, the church has been a business. As corrupt as any other organization. Sure there are a majority that are good and really want to do good, but it doesn't mean I have to go to church to be a good Christian.

Answer 4

I always felt the same way and stopped going until a few months ago. I had let the actions of a few keep me from building a relationship with God. I am a charter member for a small church and love it. I never went thinking I would find a church I liked or build a belief in anything. I took my kids to something they wanted to attend and have been back every weekend since. Alot of places or that way, try a new church, a new denomination, took me years to find one and it was an accident.

Answer 5

I have never felt comfortable in a large church. I attend a small nondenominational church. We are a family. Everyone knows everyone's names, kids, addresses, etc. We have fellowship every 4th Sunday after service. This is the type of church you need to seek out. I found that the larger churches (some but not all) are fake. I like attending a church where you "come as you are" to hear the word. You don't have to wear expensive clothing or big hats if you can not afford them. Don't loose sight of what it is all about & that is to worship God. "Where a small amount of you gather I will be in the mist of you." God Bless

Answer 6

Will you give up on Christ's fellowship of believers because of some personal preference in churches? Your current church may not be the right one for you, but your generalized and unqualified judgment is shallow and hypocritical and fake. Find a church that preaches the Bible over and over, and expect God to speak to you in each sermon. Get out of your controlling mood, because you are never going to control God's church. I attend a small church - just 26 members - and it's a wonderfully joyful experience every time we are together. I've heard some of my pastor's sermons before, but there is always some new blessing in them for me. You are never going to receive any blessing from any church until you surrender to Him who rules the entire church.

Answer 7

You keep hearing the same message because somtimes it takes a long time untill we get it! There are alot of churches out there that are more about business than Christ pray abot it! Find another church,I suggest you talk to Pastor about your concern first,Talk to other s in the church see if they feel same way,the church is a body you need to do your part to help building it up. Walking away does nothing!

Answer 8

Wow, I know the feeling. but there are problems in all churches. The small church I was going to...is so full of family and you just feel like if you aren't their family member you aren't a part of the church. I love the pastor though. I've been attending a church where I know nobody and I like it better there. You will find somewhere where you feel comfortable. But I think what is most important is your relationship with God.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

u don't have to go to curch to be a good Christian but it is a good way to meet other people and discuss your beliefs ant that kind of stuff, but u don't have to go to a big church to do that. u can have a neighborhood bible study on Sunday afternoons in your home. or read a daily devotion . u can also do any combo of these things and /or just find a smaller church, try looking out in the country for a little home town church. well i hope i was some help to you. Good luck.