I got a really bad reputation at my school and church. For about a month I was talking to a guy who was reallyyy bad. I just kinda ignored the bad stuff I heard about him. All we did was make out and still people were thinking bad stuff about me because of him. Then I made out with one of his best friends and people found out. He choose to forgive me and give me a second chance. Then I made out with another guy like three days later. They were close friends as well and it was a secret though and he didnt find out. Then one day later I made out with his BEST friend who has a girlfriend who is pregant. That also was a secret. Then finally things ended with the guy I was talking to. Now two weeks later everyone found out about these other guys. Even though I NEVER talk to any of them anymore and all I did was make out with them people have started to call me whore both at school and church. I really don't want this reputation. The guys spread lies to get back at me.
2007-12-06 03:18:15 · 30 answers · asked by Andi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one will believe me and I am the preachers kid at my church and all these things hurt me. I want people to stop and know I made a mistake. How can I fix things? NO ONE WILL BELIEVE ME!
2007-12-06 03:19:23 · update #1
Do you think I deserved the reputation?
2007-12-06 03:22:04 · update #2
People are leabelling you for what you are - that is all. Have some respect for yourself in the future.
2007-12-06 03:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. Stop kissing different guys everyday.
2. Don't break up a couple that has a baby on the way
3. Understand that teen years are the hardest for a reason.
4. Just because you didn't say anything doesn't mean the other person you kissed kept their mouth shut.
5. It doesn't make you a whore, but you sure did ACT like one.
6. Wait a few more years and find a guy who respects you and won't do this to you again
7. If you are smart enough to realize what you have done wrong, then the only thing you can do to fix it in the future, is to learn from your mistakes.
8. Good Luck!
2007-12-06 03:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jewels 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well the only thing you can do right now to repair the damage already caused is to stop doing what you have been doing. You have created a bad reputation for yourself by being involved with so many different guys. Even if all you did was make out it still makes you look bad (not to mention easy) Over time it will pass and people will forget and move on but if you keep doing the same things you will never get a good reputation. I recommend praying and ask God for forgiveness and stop making out with all of these boys. Just try and ignore them if they do not have anything nice to say to you, admit you made a mistake and move on. Find a new group of friends that aren't judging you. Good luck I hope you get it worked out. Hope I helped.
Love
Abi
2007-12-06 03:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by abigailbanksabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve all this. Now, I'm not trying to be rude, but I'll be honest. Why the hell are you making out with so many guys all the time? Stick with one. All I say is make a very deep speech at church one day so you can get them to believe you. Do everything you can to help yourself. Ask god for forgiveness, apologize, all of it! Talk to a counselor in school. Preacher's kids aren't always well behaved lol.
2007-12-06 03:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Curious Gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all..do you think what you did is wrong..I am not judging you..but you are asking a question..I have a daughter who is going through the same thing..but I don't think she made out with anyone else but this one guy I warn her about..he has a bad rep..and if you hang out with someone who has a bad rep..then people will think bad things of you..and I know that's not fair..but that's how this world is...the best advice I can give to you has a mom..is choose your friends and boyfriends wisely..you need to talk with God and ask God to help you and to forgive you if you have done wrong towards Him..then..you have to forgive yourself...then forget about the past and focus on the present..and ask God to give you the strength to get through this and the rumors..and watch over you. Please be careful in your choices..only you can fix your reputation with good choices from here on out. Good luck sweetie and I will pray for you!
2007-12-06 03:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Betsy S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the reputation is one you EARNED. In the course of a week, you 'made out' with four different guys?
None of this was secret -- if these guys are friends, they certainly talked about how easy you were to get physical with -- and may have dared each other to see who could get the furthest.
You made the decision, and the reputation you are stuck with is based on the truth. Maybe the guys embelished their stories, but the basic facts are that you didn't care with whom you hooked up, or who it might hurt. (And neither did they!)
2007-12-06 03:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop making out with people and dont date anyone for a while. you might want to think about changing schools if tht dont work but church cant help you with have no idea what you were thinking in the first place why is it always the preachers kid who does stuff like that
2007-12-06 03:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by brenpren07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i personally don't think you can fix it the same thing happend to be freshmen year in high school. i was dating this guy and i made out with his best friend. since then everyone called me a whore and now im a senior and people talk about me behind my back. the thing is though i haven't dated anyone in my school except freshmen year. so just ingore it. i know it hurts but who cares what people thinks? seriously though just as long as you know your self thats all that matters.
2007-12-06 03:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, the next time you want to explain to us about all the guys you make out with use a flowchart instead, text is too confusing.
Second, yes you deserve the bad reputation but so do those guys. They are far from being innocent in your make outs rampage.
2007-12-06 03:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by Felix The Cat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HA HA HA, they say that preacher's kids are the badest. but you seem to have common sense. You could try this out. you got yourself into a bad situation with these guys. You may wanna try to straighting things out with the community. They might be holding a grudge against you. That is not good for your future generations. ( sons, daughters, grandchildren ect.)
2007-12-06 03:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well making out with a bunch of different guys i a short amount of time usually makes ppl think that that person is a whore....just hold back dont make out with so many different guys and maybe you wouldnt have such a bad rep!
2007-12-06 03:22:18 · answer #11 · answered by Minda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋