I met a guy on match.com, we went out a few times but I seemed to be the one pursuing the relationship. I finally gave up and moved on. So why does he call me every few months to see "if I got married yet?" Yes, that's what he says. Then we spend the rest of the call talking about him (which is fine with me).
My question is - why does he still call me? He must realize that he is the one who didn't want to pursue a relationship b/c I was ready and he knew it.
Do you think -
1) he is intererested in just being friends
2) want's to know if I still like him
3) he likes me and is trying to "feel" me out
2007-12-06 03:01:58 · 43 answers · asked by asldfkjdfj 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know this guy, but from what you've said it sounds like he might be using you for his ego. Finding out someone is that into you can be a great ego-stroke.
Asking if your married yet could be two things. He might rightfully think that if you're married you'll be too wrapped up in your new husband to service his emotional needs. More likely he asks that to establish a certain mindset in you that is more conducive to servicing his emotional needs.
Think it over for a few minutes from that perspective and see if any of this rings true for you.
2007-12-06 03:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by No Drama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to confront him just say John Doe why do you still call me "but not in a mean way" i tried to pursue a relationship with you before and nothing but yet you still call asking if im married. Do you like me or do you just want a realtionship cause im getting mixed messages. then it will probably all be cleared up for you Not too hard right
2007-12-06 03:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by brenpren07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wants to know if he could still get you if he wants! Sounds terrible but the man likes to do the pursueing, even if he wants a girlfriend he doesnt like the woman to throw herself at him, he wants to be the hunter - sorry, no offence but when he's asking are you married yet, he sounds like he thinks your desperate to. Chin up, dont contact him less he comes round begging - move on, good luck! How old are you by the way?
2007-12-06 03:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a classic case of the Booty Call syndrome. He feels a connection to you buGood luct it barely goes skin deep. There must be a chemistry between you but he's unsure of what you want.
The next time he calls, make an effort to invite him somewhere and his answer and actions will tell you what his real motives are. Good luck and I hope this helps!
2007-12-06 03:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan Turner 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is obviously still into you and cant stop thinking about you if he calls months after you dated. If you are still over him, next time he calls you should deinitely break it off for good or just tell him you did get married so he will leave you alone. Unless of course you still have feelings for him and he realized he made a mistake, then you should give him a second chance.
2007-12-06 03:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Katarina777 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think this guy like alot of people on those dating sites is a little weird. i mean i have dating women on these sites and i am a straight forward fun loving guy why are there guys acting this way? i don't think he is interested in you maybe for sex but not to have a long term relationship with you.
1) nope
2) probably but i am still confused as to why he is asking if you are married yet?
3) not trying to feel you out probaly wants to feel you up
2007-12-06 03:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by gasguy695 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because he wants you to make a move first and he still likes you...alot, thats why he calls. he wana care about you and hope you are doing fine and not being fooled around by some douchbags.
i am doing the same thing like your guy. this girl i like is hanging out with this other dude, so i call her every now and then to see if she is doing fine. although she might not have any more feeling for me, i still wana be her guardian angel. i guess ur guy wants to protect you from harm so he keeps calling you.
2007-12-06 03:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by rocky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he likes the idea of you still liking him, and believes that he will always, until you are married, have a way in. Whether you still fancy him or not, is almost irrelevant as you still afford him the time to talk about him, making him feel like you are still interested.
2007-12-06 03:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by waterone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is 1, 2 and 3... I think he's hiding something though, that's why he hasn't gotten with u. I think its another person that hes involved with. I guess he wants u on stand by, just in case.
2007-12-06 03:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by pokvet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he can't make up his mind. He won't change, I assure you. When someone goes on match, they are usually serious about meeting someone. He's probably just checking in to make sure you're still available in case he needs to get laid or gets lonely.
2007-12-06 03:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by toochp 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋