How do staunch Muslims date?

Question

If they are not allowed to be alone with a member of the opposite sex? Like they cannot go to the Movies or they risked being lashed 200 times by the government.

Answer 1

THEY CAN'T DATE....THEY CAN TALK IN THE HANDPHONE ANYWAY.......I'M MUSLIM SO I KNOWLAH

Answer 2

Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim - In the Name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful

Hello. First of all, it is important to note that there are Muslims all over the world, both in Muslim-majority countries like Saudi Arabia and Pakistan, and in countries where other faiths are the majority such as India and the United States. In the vast majority of countries, the State does not take an active role in regulating the day-to-day moral lives of its Muslim citizens. Saudi Arabia tends to be very strict but they are also a chauvanistic, patriarchal, corrupt and dissolute monarchy so they actually do a very poor job of correctly instituting Islamic law.

That being said, it is true that devout Muslims will not "date" in the Western sense of the word. I live in the US and when I met my husband (we corresponded while we were working for the same company), we met with a couple who are friends of his so that we would not be alone with one another. We had a nice dinner with our "chaperones" at their home and did have time to talk privately while the friends were in another room. Technically we were "alone" because they were in the next room but we had no expectation of privacy because they could pop in at any time to check on us, so we were able to talk freely without "eavesdroppers", lol. We did not spend time alone with one another until we were married. Because of these protections, our relationship before marriage was decent and the sexual tensions and expectations that are rampant in the US were absent. We could learn about one another honestly and learn about each other as PEOPLE. So often nowadays people "fall in love" and fall into bed, not knowing if the person they met in a bar or online or at work is a good person or a serial killer. There is no protection for the men or the women because the safeguards of family and society are no longer there. I much prefer a healthy Muslim manner of getting to know a prospective mate.

It is important to understand, too, that what happens in many "Muslim" countries is purely cultural and has little or nothing to do with Islam. Islam actually disapproves of arranged marriages where the man and woman know nothing about each other. This is a cultural practice and leads to much strife when the couple is not well matched.

May Allah guide you to the best in this world and the next. Ameen.

fi Aman Allah,

Nancy Umm Abdel Hamid

Answer 3

straight practicing muslims do not date. when they feel they cant control urges and start to have feelings towards the opposite sex they must be married. if they cant afford it they must fast. because it is forbidden to masterbate or look at anything sex related to ease the tension. they have to marry.
so the only way they begin even speaking to a girl is by family or friends introduce them, the man can only glance at her face and hands only and a glance not a stare. to see if she is suitable and the woman does the same. if he is a good practicing man and she agrees then they can marry. she can turn him down if he isnt what she wants. if they do agree to marry they can have supervised phone conversations, and if they want to meet eachother a father or brother must accompany them. never can they be alone. there is usually a very short time from meeting until marriage some just a few days. dating is actualy illegal in most arab countries , if it is discovered you are dating you can be arrested.

Answer 4

From what I have heard, Muslims do not date. If a girl and guy are talking, it is with the understanding that they are looking for marriage. And I believe another person must be present, even on the phone. (This is based on an Oprah show I saw a while back.)