had, finally the last 8 yrs. have taken its toll, and I have been diagnosed with dengeneration of the spine, a hernia, fractured knee, and menopause, I have been single, and I all got to me and I decided it was time to make a change, I decided to move south and the problem is I have a grandson that worships me and it broke my heart having to leave, the thing is my daughter, my mother, and all my family are angry at me for leaving, but none of them care to hear why? so now I am considered the bad person, and it had torn me to shreds to leave, but am I wrong?
2007-12-06 02:48:21 · 11 answers · asked by kathleenhorn55 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I meant it all got me
2007-12-06 02:50:11 · update #1
Honey the only person who is going to take care of you is you. Make yourself happy you've earned it. The family will come around. Look at it this way your Grandson will have a great place to vacation.
2007-12-06 02:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, m'am, if deep in your heart you feel that going away is the best thing you can do to improve your life, to feel more happy, do so. It doesn't matter your relatives are against you, they are not living in your skin, they can love you, but only you are the one who knows what's the best for yourself, you know better what your needs at this moment in your life are. Don't pay attention to the adjectives they will use to make you feel guilty, crazy, bad etc., nothing of that is true, sometimes when a member of a family has such a big change in her life, the others feel threatened by the change, and react against the member of the family who's leaving. This is common. You know who you are, maybe they will understand later. As your grandson, he has his own life ahead of him, you got to live yours. You can visit him, your daughter can take him to visit you and maybe the boy could stay with you a few weeks a year: it's not the end of the world, it's the south only, lol, there are many planes going there.
Follow your heart,lady, good luck ! .
2007-12-06 03:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lot of physical things happening at once.....if you needed a change of environment it is your choice and you shouldn't feel bad about having done it. The problems you are describing won't go away just because you are living someplace else though.
2007-12-06 02:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not happy there and needs a change...you need to take care of yourself now...you are not in the best shape, and i know it must be hard but it's not fair of them to not even let you explain the reasons...they might not understand but you do whatever is right for you, you have only one life to live and you have to be happy!
2007-12-06 02:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong. You have to do what is right for you. When you send xmas cards out, write a note about why you did what you did. Just let them know that it was not a easy decision for you. Then invite them to visit.
2007-12-06 02:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by cooter726 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good God no Woman-you are not wrong ! -- Heal and have fun in the sun ! They can visit you if they really are concerned about you, if not--- oh wellllll----Life is short, glad you have joined those of us who recognize this--- be happy, get fit, get busy, make friends and live your life your way. Cheers
2007-12-06 02:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by *ifthatswhatyoureinto* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look... you can move for a while question of changing your mood... turning a new page to your life. Then return to your place and bring them gifts... they will be very very happy@
2007-12-06 02:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if moving south is better for your health, you did the right thing. you aren't the first parent, child or grandparent that has moved farther from your family. they'll get over it in time and they'll understand why you did it.
2007-12-06 02:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, who's life is it? Make yourself happy, you could be dead tomorrow, nobody knows!!
2007-12-06 02:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't understand how the moving addresses the health problems.
don't worry about being wrong.
2007-12-06 02:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋