My husband's parents always have a Christmas party just for adults during the Holiday season. They have many other activities that the children are all welcome to, but this one night is just for adults - family and friends. Last year, there was a big blowup because my husband's stepbrother shows up with his wife and their 2 kids. Other people were upset because they didn't get to come because they had no one to watch their kids, or they came and didn't bring their kids and were upset that they couldn't have brought them. This stepbrother is the "golden boy" - my husband's stepdad's favorite.....He shows up to Thanksgiving dinner in shorts....the rules don't seem to apply to him or his family.....His daughter is a tyrant...
Well, this year, we get told the night before the party that we are not invited because of the kids......we completely understood and were not offended...
2007-12-06 02:24:18 · 6 answers · asked by Emmy F 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
However, the morning of the party, my mother in law calls us up to say that we are indeed invited because Golden boy has been invited by his father and can bring his kids, so we are welcome to bring ours...Now, this is a big family, 8 siblings, with their spouses and children..
My husband and I felt that the only reason we were invited, and wanted to bring our kids, was to get back at my father in law for allowing Golden boy to bring his kids..... So we called her back up and told her no....
2007-12-06 02:27:10 · update #1
We feel like Golden boy should have been looked in the face, just like we were, and told that children were not welcomed....
Like I said before, they do many many other little things for the kids during the season, so it woulda been nice to have an adults only party.....they deserve that....and it's a fine thing to do....
We refuse to jump off the bridge just because other people did it.....
What do you think?
2007-12-06 02:28:57 · update #2
absoloutely you did the right thing
who needs that amount of drama?
life will always be a rollercoaster when there is a favourite and the whole world revolves round him
you did the right thing
2007-12-06 02:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you said no.
Since the party had been changed to included kids, why didn't you just take them?
If you want an adult-only family party, you could have one.
Even better, set up ways at some of the whole-family gatherings where adults take turns supervising the kids in a seperate area, so adults can all come, but have adult time together. (Opps! I didn't mean "adult" in the XXX sense, of course.)
But since you and the kids were invited, I don't see why you made a stink.
2007-12-06 08:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crappy thing for them to do, but such is life really. You have a right to be a little miffed.
I would not let this type of thing ruin your relationship with the family.
Trust me, we all have issues similar to this, and if you can't look past it, it will just make things harder.
Nothing wrong with telling them you were not coming.
2007-12-06 02:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your in laws need to know the real reason you are not going i would not go myself you did the wright thing
2007-12-06 03:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound good to me. who needs all the drama and hurt feelings? have your own party instead.
2007-12-06 02:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did
2007-12-06 03:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋