Everyone hates me because I'm so nosy. How can I stop? It's really hard to mind my own business.?

Question

It's so hard not to keep your mouth shut. You hear an interesting conversation, then you without thinking butt in. Making other people mad, I apologized, but they seem forgiving, but they are still angry.

I call out all the answers to a test and it annoys people.

when someone asks a question in I just blurt out the answer, they say could you shut up noone asked you, when i really wanted to help.

I realize that this is a bad habit. And I don't know when to shut up. This is really hard, I won't stopp talking. And butt in other peoples business.

It's getting hard to stop. And everytime I do this I promise to punish myself.

How can i stop?

I'm sorry it's just so hard. I can't help myself sometimes.

It's hard to think before you speak.

Your solutions are easier said than done. I hate myself already.

I always look at suspension papers, What this person's name grade and why he was suspended. I even look at student referrals and detention slips. It was pretty enjoyable, but I never realize i was butting in someone else's business

Answer 1

What ways were u gonna use to punish yourself? Whatever u come up with u need to do it ASAP! Nobody likes a nosy person that's always in your business. I work with people like that and it's sooooooooo freaking annoying. You need to stop it now or you'll never have friends!

Answer 2

I had this same problem, and maturity helps. As someone above said, it is going to take a conscious effort. Start by recognizing when it occurs, and making a point to apologize and step away from the conversation. Something like "I'm sorry, that was so nosy. I am trying to work on that - just forget that I butted in, I apologize" and walk away from the conversation so you don't add more to it.

It is very very hard at first. Eventually it gets easier. The real problem is that when you but in all the time, people don't listen to you when you have something really important to add. When you think you have something really important, you need to stop, think about how others may see it, and then think about how to phrase it so well that they will know you stopped and thought about it. Don't be afraid for there to be empty spaces.

As to the reading about/listening to other conversations, that is even harder to stop. Again, start by trying to walk away when you realize that you are being nosy, even if you only have 1/2 the information you were looking at. It is important to catch yourself as soon as possible and correct your actions. Eventually you will work your way to being better about it.

Answer 3

It's very difficult to "think before you speak," but that really is the only way.

One trick to try to train yourself is to count to five or ten in your head before saying something.

In class, it is even easier to hold your tongue, because if you wait a few seconds, someone else will either answer or the teacher will move on.

You can do this. Just try the counting thing.

Tell your friends to let you know when you are being too talkative. Tell them you are trying to learn to control your impulses and you want their help.

As far as being nosy goes, you just have to learn to control yourself. It is a matter of training yourself, and it's not easy. However, it sounds as though you are already thinking about your actions and how they reflect on you, which is the first step in changing. So good for you for wanting to change!

Try the counting to ten thing first. If you can control your blurting out, then the next step (controlling your nosiness), won't seem as hard.

Answer 4

Judging by some of your comments, it sounds to me like you don't want to quit being nosey. You keep saying "I can't help it" and "It's hard to think before you speak". If you really wanted help, you would listen to people's suggestions and stop making excuses. It's NOT hard to think before you speak and it's NOT hard to stay out of people's business. The next time you feel like butting in or answering a test question, keep your mouth shut (no one likes a know-it-all). When you feel your mouth start to open and you're taking in that big breath of air to say whatever it is you're about to say, shut it immediately. When there's a conversation that you're not a part of, walk away from it unless you're invited in. Stop making excuses for yourself and do what you know is right.

Answer 5

Just walk away when you hear something that is not pertaining to you. Act like you are not interested and you are focused on something else. Maybe then people would start letting you in on the low. Try practicing not blurting out answers cause no one likes a "miss know it all". Being slient sometimes draws people to you cause you ain't messy. It is good to be nosy at times but you can be slient nosy and still get the same results.

Answer 6

nosey ppl are really annoying. I mean everyone gets a little nosey sometimes but people who are ALWAYS in someone else's business is ridiculous. Dont u have enough to worry about in your own life without butting into the lives of others? I don't understand why you can't seem to help yourself. Being nosey isn't just a habit, it's a personality trait and it's pathetic.

Answer 7

You can overcome this impulse . this is a part of your personality that you like to help others and you like to be involved so focus that energy into something productive. Go to school to be a counselor or a social worker. It also sounds like the people you are around need to get a lesson in not being rude also. If you over hear my conversation and try to help me I would tell you thanks for trying to help. But you are right that since these people don't want your help you should work on being more reserved through praying and doing it.You can do it. Focus your energy where it will be appreciated. And also you need to forgive yourself for not being perfect.You need to love yourself. You see problems in yourself then pray about them everyday. You will never arrive at perfection on this earth. Everyday is a day to bow your head and pray and try your best but forgive yourself and do it with God's help.

Answer 8

It's a matter of self-discipline. You aren't going to be able to go cold-turkey, 100% keeping your mouth shut. Try to go one day and stop yourself once. Then try twice the next day. If you mess up and blurt something out or butt in, don't give up, just try to get a little better every day.

Answer 9

Don't worry about punishing yourself, you already recognize it's a bad habit, so just stop. Find something to distract yourself when you get the urge to butt in. Eventually you'll get used to it, and people around you won't be angry toward you.

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