I just moved in with my boyfriend about a month and a half ago (been together for a year n' half), and he's already up all over in my shiz. By that I mean I feel like we're joined at the hip to the point of where I want to tell him I'm thinking of finding another place. I'm the type of person that enjoys one-on-one conversations, hanging out, with different people everyday, not just my boyfriend. We work together, and carpool together!! We eat breakfast, lunch and dinner together... It's bf overload and I seriously don't know how to break it to him that I need lots of space. It's to the point where every little thing he does is driving me nuts; the way he eats, his laugh, the way he touches my leg after every bite he takes..and theres more. I know there was at one point a reason why I moved in with him - but right now I can't remember for the life of me.
How do you get back to the space and adjust so you both have a life after you move in w/sig. other? I feel overwhelmed.
Help!!
2007-12-06 01:14:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no it is not u should talk to him
2007-12-06 01:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by ★HigHTƹcH★ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication - if you have a strong relationshipment, then talking about it openly shouldn't cause a problem. We never really know someone until we've lived with them. He is apparently into the total-togetherness mode of your arrangement. Yet everyone needs some personal space. You had to know when you decided to move in that he'd pretty much always be there, right? LOL! Sit down and talk with him about it. Tell him you understand there are adjustments to be made on both your part and his; explain your need for some space and be open to anything he has to say on the subject. Good luck!
2007-12-06 01:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one I don't see how you could work with someone you are dating that's way way way too much time togeather. You have to have some time apart. The thing is now that he has had this time togeather and is not feeling the same way you are, when you ask for a night out with the girls he's gonna freak and think you are cheating on him.... Is he an understanding type of person? If he is just be honest not blunt but honest let him know that he is smothering you and that you need to be able to go to the can without being asked what you are doing, if you know what I mean. I've been on both sides of that i've wanted to not let someone outa my sight and been the one trying to find ways to not spend time with that someone. I've dicovered that if you have some communication in the relationship it always works it's self out other wise you just bottle it till the bottle busts and it turns out bad.
2007-12-06 01:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Newsflash...this is what it would be like to be married to him. It sounds to me like that's not what you're looking for...so that means it's time to move on with your life. His relationship style and your relationship style are two different things. The first thing you can do to try to salvage things is explain how you feel, and what you think would improve the situation. If that comes up fruitless, it's time to move out and move on.
2007-12-06 01:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by NunyaBizzness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out girl! You are in trouble and lined up for more with this guy! I know I'm nagging, but here goes you knew he was like this before. rite? And you never should have moved in he has no intention of marrying you. sorry good luck.
2007-12-06 01:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you just have to tell him look i think its great that we are spending time together but like all relationships we both need a "buffer zone" ( space)from each other. if he doesn't accept this then your boyfriend is a control freak and must be told so
2007-12-06 01:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by gasguy695 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol wow!!! thts ur boyfreind ur tlkin abt? lol sounds like an stressful mate. wel he seems to be makin the attempt for u, n of course ur hearts no longer in it. all boyfreindspersistent all girlfreinds loopy!!! so that's usual i think of. mine drives me loopy bt i like him and wud spend a great number of time mutually, n love our time mutually which we hav. n its fairly superb to make out wit him quite often, lol so i dnt locate myself thinkin EWH!! identity be apprehensive if i did. cuz he wud deff nt be my bf if he made me experience tht way. i say u ought to tell him u choose a injury from him, n sumthin tells me he could be fairly harm by using it. u look to hav sed all of it urself neway. tht u dnt even like him nemore. thts ur cue to make him conscious of tht as gently as poss and jus go away. wont be too stressful to circumvent if united states of america 6 hrs faraway from one yet another neway lol good success
2016-10-10 09:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need ME time aswell as WE time. Tell him exactaly that. He will understand.
2007-12-06 01:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him what you told us> with your bags in hand as you will be leaving>>>
2007-12-06 01:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea that is normal you just have to adjust!
2007-12-06 01:28:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋