Well me and my boy friend are thinkin about having a baby, but we are still in skool, and I'm only 17 and he's 19. We're was going to move n together but I have to take care of my mother, even me, my mother, and him are talkin about this baby. We both have jodz,he already have the place that we're going to move in, he's still in college, and I have a year left of skool. I don't what to do.
2007-12-06 00:32:29 · 23 answers · asked by toosexy_fo_u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh boy; train wreck approaching! TOTAL disaster if you carry through with this plan, believe me! Babies are EXPENSIVE and they demand your full attention and time 24/7 for life; you two haven't even begun to live and enjoy your own lives yet...wait a few years, get more education, start saving money, etc then reconsider this step.
2007-12-06 00:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
skool - school
jodz - jobs
Please learn how to spell if you are considering having a child.
Okay, do you have medical coverage to pay for having a child? It costs a lot to go through a pregnancy and then afterwards for both you and the child. Then there is the cost of diapers, clothes, food, crib, changing table, sheets.... Those all add up to a lot for a month. Will you be able to work through your whole pregnancy? Who will look after the baby afterwards if you are working? How will the rent be paid? What happens if there is complications and you are on bed rest during the whole pregnancy? What happens if there is something wrong with the baby? What will happen if you and your boyfriend break up? Who will pay all the bills and help with the child then? You have to answer all the questions seriously before you can consider having a child. Why are you in a rush, it isn't like you can't have children after the age of 19, you have many years left to do it. Especially after finishing school, going to college, and being financially stable.
2007-12-06 00:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by NWIP 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This can't be a real question. You're thinking about having a baby and you can't even use proper grammer or spelling! How are you suppose to teach your child when you still have to be taught yourself! Get yourself some more education like going to college before you even think about having a kid. You have no idea how much responsibility comes with having a child. Do either of you have health insurance in your names? If not, don't go expecting your parents to put the baby on their insurance. Do you even have a place to stay other than home? You're not even old enough to have a lease in your name. How do you expect to raise a child this way? Rasing a child is not a fantasy.. it's reality and it's not something you're ready for.
2007-12-06 01:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, Please wait a while before you go having children. You are still a child yourself. Could you imagine being at school 9 months pregnant. It will intafere with your exams and possibly intafere with the grades you get. Not only that you will have to make sure that you have everything for the babys arrival. I know you have said that you and your bf have jobs but only one of you will be working half way through the pregnancy and with his pay packet would you be able to provide for the babys needs. Having a baby also puts strain on a relationship. Things may not turn out as were planned and your bf may leave you. I understand that you will have your mums support, but, just imagine having to do night feeds, nappy changing, basically everything by yourself. You may have to drop out of school. all posabilities should be considered. baby isnt somthing that you can give back. It will be there for the rest of your life. You have plenty of time to have children. Just wait till u have left school at least. That way you will have decent grades to fall back on. good luck
2007-12-06 02:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by connies mummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your legs together please children are not toys, finish SCHOOL and get a job then wait until you have money in the bank and a car and food on the table, wait till you 25 then see what you think, why don't you do some volunteer work at a hospital helping the baby's, then you will have a better idea what it's like having a child.
2007-12-06 01:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least wait until ye are both finished in school and that way you can really make up your mind and still not miss out on your final year of education. You can easily wait a year or so but if you have the baby now you'll find it next to impossible to finish your schooling.
2007-12-06 02:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by knight32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others, only they are being very nice about the way they are saying it. You have got to be kidding me? Having a baby on purpose, at 17?! You should be concentrating on your education, not having a child. If you decide to have a baby, this is what I predict:
baby is born, boyfriend quits school, you end up on welfare. So now the rest of us end up supporting you. Lets look even further, baby is 1 yrs old, father is tired of playing house, he leaves.... you are now living with your mom, who is ill.
Honestly, I wonder if this question is being posted for shock value! And if it isn't, if you are truly wanting to have a child, I doubt anyones comments in here willl deter you from doing so.
2007-12-06 00:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by holly c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourselves these questions:
1. Have you tried making your computations on how much you need to spend on a daily basis if you will be having a kid, or maybe living apart from your parents? Try thinking about this: rent, bills, groceries, daily expenses.
2. Are you ready to face pressures in most of family-life situations?
3. Having a family is great, but it is all about personal sacrifice on most of the things you love to do. Are you ready for these types of sacrifices in your part?
Answer all three very truthfully, or else it would defeat its purpose.
If your answer to all 3 is "YES", then go ahead with your plans for a family life.
And if not, think twice, think thrice, or even ten times before doing it.
If you are already pregnant, please do not resort to abortion. I am a Pro-Life person. I value life... the kid has the right to live. How would you feel if you were the kid inside, and your mom would try to kill you even before you were born? Just go on with the pregnancy and have the kid adopted.
2007-12-06 01:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you best stop and think. your only a child yourself. you have the rest of your life to have a baby. focus on a career first. making sure you have enough money to care for this child. you'll be sorry when allyour friends are out there making it while youre stuck at home witha baby. why not buy a home that you and your bf can call home first, get a great job so you both can have a life first before you go creating one. believe me, you dont want a baby at 17. its not as easyas you think it will be.
2007-12-06 00:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children should not have children. You can't spell or write a proper sentence... you are certainly not able to offer a baby anything much! Finish your education and get some job-related training. When you have grown up is plenty of time to think of having a child. You make me very sad... it's too bad that your mother doesn't know any better than to encourage you in something as foolish as this idea. You deserve better. Good luck!
2007-12-06 00:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by Gina C 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋