I know a few parents who hardly buy their kids any toys. I know some people don't have too much money, but if you can't afford to buy your children what they ask for, why even bother having them?
My daughter gets something every time we go to the store, I always make sure I have about $50 to get her what she wants.
Why are some parents so stingy?
2007-12-06 00:16:29 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Start saving the $50.00 for bail
2007-12-06 00:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Clueless 5 · 15⤊ 0⤋
"Why are some parents so stingy?"
No, why do some parents think that buying their kids everything they want means they are good parents? That only guarantees you'll have a spoiled brat on your hands who thinks the world owes them everything they want. Life doesn't work that way, sorry. There are other, and better, ways to show your kids you love them than buying them toys, candy, or other material things. The time you spend with themm and the memories you make with them are much better ways to raise decent, loving children and to give them the security they need.
And what happens if someday in the future your budget changes and you don't have $50 to make sure your daughter can have something every time you go to the store? Or would you choose toys for her over the basic necessities?
2007-12-06 00:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Starfall 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you are buying the toys? You cannot "buy" your child's love and affection. Are you scared of losing such if you say "no" to her? If you raise a spoiled child, what will happen when she is older? Are you still expected to hand over $50 often even when she hits her 20s, 30s, 40s, etc. She wont stop asking as she expects it all the time. I know plenty of mums who do what you do - but often i find it is the difference between working mums who are too busy to spend quality time with their kids and rather hand out the cash, and stay at home mums who have no cash but put in the quality time to listen to their children. Also, is your daughter an only child? My kids would definitely never give up their brother/sisters to play with and have around for any amount of money. Love, relationships and quality time would win hands down each time over handing out money on a regular basis. Just ask your daughter when she is older - right now, she loves the money but in 10 - 20 years time when she has her own children, I bet she will say she would have rather had some quality time with you rather than the money.
2007-12-06 00:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by aink 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I grew up without getting things that I wanted. I always had the things I needed. I got my toys during Christmas and my birthday. I never minded. I think my parents did a great job teaching me the value of a hard earned dollar, appreciation for gifts, and how to properly care for the toys that I had. I actually had a lot considering I just got them on my birthday and Christmas. They had plenty of money to spend throughout the year but I'm glad they saved. They now have their dream home completely paid off from the day they bought it. I was seventeen at the time.
Anyway, I'm the same way. We save that fifty dollars extra for my son's and cousin's college fund. [Even though my cousin no longer lives with us...] I think they will appreciate that more then in the long run then a childhood filled of toys that they can never use or appreciate because they have so many.
To each their own but I prefer to teach my kids about giving, kindness, and love then lavishing them with gifts left and right. There are far more important things than the material.
2007-12-06 00:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by .vato. 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Because, we don't want our kids to be spoiled little brats. Kids don't need "things", they can't play with 100 toys at once! My kids have toys, but not a ton - they get them at Christmas and birthdays and OCCASIONALLY a couple times throughout the year (example go to the store see a cute toy for under $20 and give it to them as a surprise - once again, this happens maybe 2 or 3 times a year. That's just sad what you do to your daughter - you're teaching her that you can buy her love - that is soooooooooooooo freaking sad. I just hope that she grows up to be a better person than what you are raising her to be. I can't believe you do that! That's just a sick thing to do, say and insinuate!
2007-12-06 01:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Better watch out, you're creating a monster! A child who expects a gift EVERY time you go to the store is a child not being raised in reality. In life you do not always get what you want. This is an important lesson you're not teaching her. You need to learn how to say no sometimes, and she'll have to learn to deal with it.
And I'm concerned that you're obsessed with material things. My parents didn't have a lot of money when I was little, but my dad worked two jobs to support us and my mom was home loving us and making food for the family. I was so loved and cherished, and I did get toys, but not constantly! That isn't the point.
I'm sure you've heard the saying "He who has the most toys, still dies."
2007-12-06 00:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Irritated Lactivist 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not all people can afford $50 for their kids on everytrip to the store. Some people can just get by on a daily basis. It's not fair to call parents who cant afford the little extras stingy, i'm sure they would buy their kids the world if they could afford it. Not to have kids cos u cant afford all of their wants? Thats a little extreme dont you think?
2007-12-06 00:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by CATHYJOAN 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You my friend, are going to have a big, spoiled brat. One reason my 3 children don't get something everytime we go to the store is we cannot afford it and why should they get something everytime? We do buy special stuff on occasion, but we save that kind of stuff for birthdays and Christmas. And even then we don't buy alot of toys, about 2 or 3 a piece, because our families buy them toys too. Our house is already overrun with toys.
2007-12-06 00:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Some of us actually choose to parent our children instead of spoiling them and choosing toys, tv etc as a babysitter for them. Get a life and a clue. I choose not to spoil my children with an overabundance of toys they don't need in the first place. Spend some time with your child she will cherish it more when she grows up more than she will remember some toy you bought her. Try taking that money and putting it in a college fund for your child that will be of more use to her than some stupid overpriced toy.
2007-12-07 05:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lee_M1992 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not stingy. my son needs to learn money doesnt grow on trees i can afford a small toy like a hot wheels car but we (husband and myself) chose to not buy toys. every time we go out. he also doesnt need 9 boxes of toys. i also dont wish to start something and then not be able to afford for some reason
i also am not raising a spoiled brat. my son is loved and gets what he wants with in reason
raise your child how you see fit but dont you dare snub your nose at me because i chose to not spoil and waste good money on toys that he will play with once and then want more
it devalues everything
2007-12-06 00:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why do some parents insist on spoiling their children by buying them $50 worth of toys every time they go to the store?
It goes both ways. Some parents don't believe that buying their children a flood of toys is a good thing.
What matters is the amount of quality time you spend with your children, not the amount of money you spend on them.
2007-12-06 00:21:16 · answer #11 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 13⤊ 0⤋