Okay so im in school?

Question

i consider my self a loser. no one talks to me. im int he libary and everyone sits away from me. im not that bad. teens can be so judgemental, they dont know me and they dont give me a chance. i wear band tee's like slipknot and manson, so now im an meo *****. i seriously dont know what to do anymore. i just wanna be dead.

i have friends. i talk to people. but only few.

Answer 1

I think being dead would suck more than being a loser. (-:

Don't worry about it, it's just school. From what I remember about High School, it only lasted a few years and then you advance to the murk of people who are too self obsorbed to care about anyone but themselves and you don't have to worry about people's opinions about you because there won't be any. Sorry, just being overly dramatic.

Just concentrate on the things that you want to do and remember that you will meet a lot more people in your life than those losers in your school and I'm sur ethat if you want to make a connection with someone in life, you will especially if you don't focus your energies on self loathing.

Also, that part of your message that was censored. If its what I think it says, don't be one of those either. There's nothing positive in it.

Just remember, the people that are in front of you aren't usually indicative of what everyone in the world is all about. Everyone is different.

Answer 2

Don't consider yourself a loser. Just a loner. Yes, teens can be judgemental, but what are they but immature kids anyway. If you have something they want, they stick to you like glue. Someday you will be better than them. Instead grow from within. If you do, then people will see you differently. If not now, they certainly will later. Develop a skill, a talent or interest in something and focus on it. Others will later see you for you and not for what you are on the outside. People shouldn't judge a book by it's cover, but they do. You are young yet. There is a lot of life for you to experience, so don't give up, don't show bitterness or dispare. I know it is hard not to be a part of the other crowd now, but someday that will all change. I too was a loner, but now I have a skill that many wish they had and even quite envious, so things do change. Have faith and ask God to direct your path.

Answer 3

You are right teens can be so mean. Just try maybe walking up and starting the conversation with them. They might be a little scared of you. I know because my own daughter went through this in middle school. She would come home crying and ask me what to do. I always told her to be true to her self and her beliefs and the others would come around. She found kids in school that liked the same things she did and dress the way she did and made some wonderful friends. In some of her classes she did start talking to the other type of kids by saying Hi, home work sucks, etc and after a while they started coming around and did get to know her and soon had friendships that have lasted even after high school. She went through the Punk Music and dressing like that for a number of years.My daughter ended up with friends from the most popular to the least popular kids in school. but she never judged someone for what they looked like because she knew how it felt. You do not want to die, because school is such a small part of your life. You have so much more to look forward to in life. Find someone that you can talk to like a counselor, a favorite teacher, a friends parent, your parent, etc. I hope this will help. I remember what it was like growing up. But I promise you it will get better.

Answer 4

Find friends with similar interests? I don't get this whole "emo" thing these days. When I was in highschool emo was Elliot Smith, PJ Harvey, and bands like that and nobody hated you for listening to them but I digress...

Whatever, it's highschool and kids are pretty stupid. College is a whole lot different.

On a side note you can still listen to bands like Slipknot and Manson without having to be a billboard for them. I've always viewed the band t-shirt as the pinnacle of douchebaggery and you really aren't setting yourself up well to make friends by wearing them. You're basically saying "I listen to THESE bands and if you don't like that then go away!" Eventually somebody may approach you and say "hey nice shirt" but you'll ultimately be more approachable if you unbrand yourself whether that be getting rid of Slipknot Tees or Abercrombie jeans.

Answer 5

Dude dont worry you will find the rite crowd that fits you. Dont waste your time trying to find a crowd to fit into. Teens are going to be teen and you will have this clique and that clique but when it is all said and done and school is over with, everyone is going to wind up going there seperate ways ne way. You will have those who are successful and those loosers who dont make it anywhere in life.... dont worry about not having friends at the moment, because those people who say they are your friends are not always going to be there like you would hope or plan for them to be. Good friends are like a REALLY EXPENSIVE, RARE, AND FOREIGN CAR! Hard to find at a cheap price...... Just give it time tho and I promise everything will workout for the better. Just make sure you stay in that library and keep your head in your books. Like my mom tells me, your friends can come later!!!!!!!

Answer 6

It's just high school; (not that that makes you feel any better) but I was a nerd in high school and it caused me all kinds of problems. I made friends with the people I could and made it through ok. Now ( given the fact that I have been out for more then 15 years) it seems to matter little. Everything changes once you go to college anyway.

Answer 7

first how you view yourself is a huge part of how others view you.. secondly your first impression is the first thing everyone judges and you have the 2nd best time to change that if you want it..

over the holidays you could decide to throw in a couple of polos and nice prep tees.. and less black and death metal.. believe me.. i was like you from 8th til 10th.. and during x-mas my mom and dad helped and let me try out new things.. i had a new self confidence..

im 26 now.. more of a hippy.. love tye-dyed and embroidery... but its up to how you wanna be viewed.. and where you wanna go with your life..

start small ... it grows!

Answer 8

my husband was an outcast in school and we now have 3 beautiful children. yes, high school students can be bad, but college is better (as long as you don't go to the same school as the people you know now). Also, adult life will be much kinder to you - trust me. just focus on what is important - school work and getting a good job when you are done with school. even if you don't go to college. find a job doing something you like. good luck.

Answer 9

dude, ive always felt sorry for guys like you in highschool, but i always also used to think, why dont they just talk? chances are you're probaby really quiet and in group settings (like being in groups for class) you assume no one wants to talk to you so stay silent......thats just not the case! Dont force youself on people but jus slowly start interacting more and before you know it you'll be talking to people in no time
Also about the judgemental thing, its true so while im not saying change everything you are, at this stage, keep it on the low about your more unusual activities like if you play dungens and dragons or anything like that...and be clean because it makes you more approachable....good luck man..

Answer 10

dont feel like that! i used to think that same way at one point! im sure if you try talking to some of the people in your classes, they will realize what a great person you are and not view you so differently! some times its us that outkasts ourselves! just open up... give yourself a chance! it will all work out for the best....i know it!