I've had so much crap go on in my life. I've tried killing myself, i have so many scars down my arm cause i cut myself so much. I don't no why. My parents are divorced, and my mum completly hates my, im 15 and don't have any family in Australia so i cant go anywere from home. I don't have many friends or a boyfriend that i can share my problems with. I don't like counselers, and i don't want proffesional help. I just want to change my life around and be happy, i don't want to go to bed every night crying, but how? How do i change my life to something i will want to live for?
2007-12-05 20:56:51 · 25 answers · asked by cOOkies.... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I want to no who to be happy, and turn my life around to something i i enjoy!
2007-12-05 21:02:00 · update #1
At 15 you have seen nothing life is too big.. the real world is worse you will actually understand it when you are an adult .. you seem to be a very pampered child ... get yourself busy either with studies or sports and all the trouble of your life will vanish automatically ....
2007-12-05 23:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by jammy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've been there and done that. I've got scars all over my arms, I've attempted suicide a few times too actually. I'm still here though.
If you are unwilling to open up to someone else then you are not ready for help. Trust me. As soon as I started opening up about my problems to anyone who would listen, I started feeling a lot better.
Whatever burden it is that you carry it is not only for you. Don't feel that way. I know it seems very hopeless sometimes but whatever it is you just have to push through it and survive. It makes for a good story too.
Have you tried writing? I find that that helps me a lot too.
Hey if it helps, email me. We'll be "pen pals".
Take care, and good luck.
Try a school counselor by the way, that was when I first made some progress.
2007-12-06 05:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by Marius , II 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You may have depression. Its okay, I have bipolar. I too have scars on my arm and I too go to bed crying, and I too hate people like counselors because they interregate you and it makes you feel totally uncomfortable. I've been pretty good lately because I've tried a whole new way of thinking. Firstly I've set goals. And not like 'I will travel in the future goals', but everyday goals - things I have to accomplish by the end of the day. For example, one good deed for another, or going for a walk to clear my head. Simple things can make a difference. Try and remember what happens when you have a really good day and try and make simple adjustments to your lifestyle. I know this sounds totally off because it may have nothing to do with why you are sad and lost, but lifestyle changes like this help massively. I do hope you help and please email me and keep in contact. You said you don't have many friends or people to share your problems with and I would be honoured if you shared your problems with me. I do not know you but I know that you are a beautiful person and beautiful people shouldn't feel like that. Good luck.
If you do want to talk you can email my yahoo email or my hotmail one at: the_enticing_zambini@hotmail.com
2007-12-06 06:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by ~(Tinker) Belle~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey friend, you know what you actually need right now is a good friend who can understand you. If not a person then you can write it down in a personal diary. It will help you in relieving your anger towards life, and another thing is that you should have faith in someone so you can get hope from somewhere. Dont worry dear whenever you have bad day think that these days are not going to last forever. I can understand your problems because you and me both are teenagers and have similar feelings. Don't take tension, it will be okay.
2007-12-06 05:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by Juhi Chavda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what your feeling hun I feel like that too although I am getting some help for the crap in my life. I am 25 now and my problems did start around 8 years old. I have had to accept professional help and believe me there is no shame in that, it is a relief to me. I am going every thursday night, the session involves half hour talk therapy and half hour hypnotherapy. You say you dont want to seek help but if you are cutting yourself I do really think you should try to get it.
I have always been a negative person but these sessions are helping me to change my behaviour through reflection and relaxation. Please if you need help get it. It is sometimes best to talk to somebody completly outside of it. You will start to see things a little clear.
I doubt your Mum hates you I bet she sees your unhappiness and it is too much for her because you are her child and believe me that means everything. Try to talk to her and tell her how you feel about your life and where it is going. You need your Mum at 15 darling. You will be surprised what a cuddle and a talk to your Mum can do. I bet she will be so relieved that you are opening up instead of just struggling to deal with things on your own. You might find that all you need is to open up to her.
You have your life ahead of you, what about school? hobbies try to find an interest if you can, a focus for you to concentrate on. This could be anything you want it to be. Remember that each one of us are unique and beautiful and nothing is ever that bad. You say you dont have many friends but I dont think anybody has. I have two or three really good friends and they make up for a thousand. Could you not hang out with them go to the cinema to their houses get yourself out like a girl of your age should be doing.
There is only you that can change your life around but dont be afraid to accept some support and comfort along the way. You deserve to be happy. I will keep you in my thoughts sweetie, if you want to talk private my e-mail is capricorna@hotmail.co.uk take care xxxxxxxx
2007-12-06 05:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by mad serb girl is here!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am not an optimist, because I am not sure that everything ends well. Nor am I a pessimist, because I am not sure that everything ends badly. I just carry hope in my heart.
Hope is the feeling that life and work have a meaning. You either have it or you don't, regardless of the state of the world that surrounds you.
Life without hope is an empty, boring, and useless life. I cannot imagine that I could strive for something if I did not carry hope in me. Religon often gives people hope. I'm Christian..so well...my friends give me hope in life. Friends are the flowers in the garden of life. Even though some of your friends might betray you or hurt you but if u don't have any friends, your garden would be pretty empty...and boring.
2007-12-06 05:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by Caesar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, Hope you have prayed to god for Happiness. But god will not give happiness to you directly rather he will give opportunities to be happy. Example if a person wants to be patience, god will not give him patience rather gives an opportunity to be patience.
How many opportunities you got and how many you utilized and how many you missed.
Or at least make your self more opportunities to be happy.
We are not here to advise you. You are the best judge to evaluate yourself how you are going to be.
Simple example: If you hold a small piece of stone in front of your eyes it will block the entire world, if you through it away you can see the huge beautiful world. The problems are like the small stones. Throw it away… everyone has their own problems… not only you…
2007-12-06 05:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
write a list of things you want to do..
on one side write the things you know you can get done immediately...on the other hand write the things that might prove difficult..
write the things you would also like to change about your life..
crying doesn't help, yes you are sad but how will wetting your pillow solve your problem/...?
you re young and im sure youre beautiful...
do you go to school?..
what do you want to be when you get older..discover yourself..this will take time but it will help you learn what you are destined for.
im sure there is a big plan for you. you just need to find that path to it..
life tries to test us by giving us things we think we cant handle..you nearly failed..failing is not an option, you are destined for greatness..i believe it.do you?
2007-12-06 05:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by 9k 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's something you wake up and decide to do one morning, sounds weird but it's true. I hated my life nothing was going my way, my family drove me crazy, I had no where to go, and no one to lean on. One day I woke up and realized that everything I was upset about I couldn't help and that maybe I needed to be more understanding with with people. So if something bothered me, but I couldn't do anything about it (like being stuck at home) I just brushed it off, smiled anyway. I started to be more loving towards my family and they responded to that, my whole family is close now just because I reached out. Please if you need someone to talk to email me, I would love to hear from you. Good luck sweetie :)
2007-12-06 05:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Devon M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have not read all the answers of your question but I am advising you. I am from India and in my late fifties. Please find an Art of Living center near your home town. This is a NGO run by Sri Sri Ravi Shankar Ji from Bangalore India and have branches in all the world over. He is spiritual GURU of millions of people like you and of course ME Please go there and attend their basic course of 24 hours spread over in Six days. After the course you will feel so much relaxed that you can not imagine. Please believe me, I think I m of the age of your father and can not imagine to misguide you even in my wild dreams.
2007-12-07 11:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by HB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋