How do you deal with a sister who commits emotional blackmail?

Question

I'll try to get right to the point, but there is a lot involved. Me and my sister have always been close. She is 1 1/2 yrs. younger. She has twin 4 yr. old girls who I have a tremendously close relationship with. My sister and I got in a fight, and now she isn't speaking to me. This is fine with me, but apparently, I'm not able to see my nieces. I consider this emotional blackmail and I'm not sure how to deal with it. She has done this in the past when the girls were babies, and I literally cried every night because I missed them so bad. After a couple months, she finally contacted me to make up. After the second time she did it, she promised she would never use her kids like that again, (she admitted she used them to get to me, & it's the only way she can). I'm not surprised it's happening again, but it still hurts because the girls & I are so close. I feel she was in the wrong in this fight, so I won't give in. How would you handle it? I am open to all suggestions.

Answer 1

LET HER KNOW IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS THAT THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR & THE ONLY ONE SHE IS HURTING IS THE KIDS THEMSELVES. IF THIS CONTINUES, EXPLAIN TO THE KIDS WHAT IS HAPPENING; THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS LOVE THEM & WANT TO BE IN THEIR LIVES, BUT THEIR MOM WON'T ALLOW A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP. BE SURE & WARN YOUR SISTER BEFORE YOU DO THIS; GIVE HER THE CHANCE TO THINK ABOUT THE EMOTIONAL CONSEQUENCES SHE IS HEAPING ON HER CHILDREN.

Answer 2

Give divorce or commit mistake to live the life like a caged bird without any wings to fly in open sky. Youe wife seems super idiot and her parents will blakmail you. Put a charge of threanig to commit sucide on her and go for new connection.

Answer 3

i would ignore her until she comes back around to apologize again... and please don't think this is the last time she will use the kids against you... she has issues which you can't fix.

Answer 4

If that's how she wants to be then so be it. She can contact me.