Here is the story... my sister came home after going to the dr. and said that she has cancer in her breast. She went to the hospital and they removed the lumps in ONE breast. She also has issues with her uterus. The lumps in the other breast haven't been removed. That was 11 months ago. She hasn't been for any other surgery but is now seeing a shrink once a week and going to the dr. at least once a week. She has dropped at least 25 lbs and sleeps all the time. No bowel or urinary control. She doesn't talk to anyone about it and doesn't seem to care about anything. A nurse told me that she is dying and is getting prepared for it. But I can't believe that she wouldn't share what is happening. She lives with us and I am scared to find her dead in her room. She talks about moving out and set a deadline to move but that has passed. She makes excuses for it or won't talk to anyone really and she is hiding out in her room. I don't want her to leave if she need us. What is happening?
2007-12-05
20:48:12
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Whyld in the willows
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➔ Cancer
What does it mean if she is seeing a shrink once a week? I don't understand. She WANTS to leave but she doesn't. I don't particularly want her to go if she needs us. I just want her to share what is going on so that we can help her.
2007-12-05
21:18:58 ·
update #1
I spoke with her and she is not talkative in any way. I told her that she is special and she has had a difficult life. But as much as I want to help, she won't let anyone help her, interact with her, and is very difficult to be with. I have explained that she is a valued part of our lives and we care. She shuts the door in my face. I don't know what to do. Is she dying? Is that why she is going to the dr and the shrink? Is she so withdrawn that she can't face those who love her and want to help? I don't understand it. Why would she be going to the shrink? What stage of cancer does that come into play? Are cancer patient supposed to go to the dr so often? Do they prescribe antidepressants as a rule? What am I looking at here? What help can I offer her? I don't know what to do. She has three children that she has given up to her ex-husband but she talks to them constantly. What am I going to tell them when the time comes if they ask? They call and we talk but not about their mom.
2007-12-06
13:51:20 ·
update #2