So there is a girl who I like more than just a friend. And I have expressed my feelings to her, and she has said she feels the same way, but she has a boyfriend. The reason why things are complicated is because she come from a small town, and she lives with him now, and things between them are not working out...I feel like she is pushing me to say "come and live with me," but I cant say that,because im in college....I am starting to fall in love with her, and I know she is as well with me....She cant get a place on her own, because she cant afford it....She has said she might be moving back home, and im heart-broken...How do I get her to stay...Or should I not even worry about it.
I care for her, and I would like for her to stay here in town, but currently I have responsibilities, and she has none, because she doesnt go to college.All she does is go to work...I actually may be her only good friend here in town, and even that is under the covers, because her boyfrind is unaware of me
2007-12-05 20:11:56 · 11 answers · asked by ThatGuy88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't really think that you are falling in love with her. What is happening to you is that I think you are like me... we are very generous people. Am I wrong? well, anyways.
It's just like you said.. You feel bad for her because everything in HER life is complicated and you are pressuring yourself to help her because you are her "only" friend in town.
You can't leave all of what you have for a person who lives with someone else just to support herself. I think she will end up doing the same with you. It' not love that she is seeking in you... It's just help.
2007-12-05 20:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You sound like you are in a bind right now. Sorry to hear that. But if she has the same feelings for you, as you do her, then there is nothing to worry about. First, you know she likes you the same as you like her. Second, you are not in a relationship, and sounds like neither is she. Third, if she does move back home, then what's to say that yall won't meet back again months or years after she "might" move back home? You never know. Fourth, even though you have responsibilities, you have to think about all your options before bringing a gf into your "busy" life, some college kids can do it, others can't. But if you know that she has no where else to go, you don't want her to leave, and her and her bf's relationship isn't going well, just weigh all your options right now and see what comes to mind or what happens. Thats your best bet. Just make sure you don't let the bf know you talking to her like that. You don't know what he is capable of for one. i.e. - bad stuff. Make sure you think about this one real good. Make sure it is with your head (mind), not your heart. Then when and if you do get her, make sure you get her with your heart and not your head (mind).
2007-12-06 04:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by fryeindustries2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, she has to end the relationship with her boyfriend before you both can take things further, when she does this then you can progress on a relationship with each other, this would make things a whole lot smoother and easier if the 2 of you were both free and single.
If she is not willing to finish with her boyfriend then she is obviously not the one for you and its time to move on.
2007-12-06 04:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by deedee192 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRICKY!
Is there anyway that you could move out of the dorm, and share a place with her?
It may seem like a big responsiblitiy, but considering everything you've said, it seems like the only solution if you want to be with her.
2007-12-06 04:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by chacha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation
help her find a cheap place but still good drive around walk around otherwise she will leave.All the best
2007-12-06 04:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by OBASAM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really meant for each other,you will survive for what obstacle you are facing right now. If you love her fight for her,ask first your family if they want to help this girl and maybe the will let this girl leave in your house....Good luck to you....God Bless...
2007-12-06 04:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by Arolf Flower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be friend with his boy friend and know about him that wether heis a good person or a basterd if he is good person step out of that affair unless u always goona find a way to live with her
2007-12-06 04:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by rajat jain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accompany her to her home town and take admission to a college there.
2007-12-06 04:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stay, and help her find a better job?
or hell, get off your *** and get a job so you can move in together.
2007-12-06 04:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by keymaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a boyfriend then I would tend to leave her be.
2007-12-06 04:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋