Okay, So I got myself in an internet/online relationship with a a guy I really like. He's the perfect guy, and with all the pictures and info he's given me, I'm beginning to trust him more and more. He says he loves me and I love him too, but sometimes I wonder if I'll ever get a chance to meet him, because we've met on the internet and we live so far away from each other. IS there ever a chance? Or is this just some fantasy that's never going to come true?
Thanks in advance
2007-12-05 20:01:45 · 16 answers · asked by Ms. Phoebe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even though you have your own picture about him in mind, you may never know how you actually feel about him if you were to meet face to face.
Being in an online relationsihp is like a fantasy, in that you only picture the good aspects of the other person in your mind, without even getting to be with him physically or getting to experience some of his (good or bad) habits / traits in person.
Ask yourself, why do you love him? If it's because of the similarities and conversations you've had? Maybe, it could work. But, in order to do this, you have to take yourself out of fantasy world.
Try talking with him on the phone and maybe even meeting him one weekend. If this is too much of a hassle and aren't able to make this happen in the oh-so-close future, I suggest you put a close to this relationship and just become good friends.
As time passes, you'll want to meet him more and more; and the distance will just hurt you in the end. Everybody needs a little intimacy here and there.
2007-12-05 20:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Internet is only virtual. Some people do not consider online relationship real cos afterall, it's still virtual. Behind the keyboard, he may a total opposite of what he is online. Pictures and info can also all be made up. It's all up to you to believe.
You shouldn't rely on the fact that he said he loves you cos love is not as simple as being said. Love can be long distant but not in the way like yours. The both of you like each other very much for now... But in reality, both of you have not met. For me, i do not believe in online relationships. I do not agree with it as well.
Don't trust him too much for now unless you get to know him in person in the future. This is will a fantasy for you. The things he've said might have made you feel like the happiest person on earth but it'll be different when you ever meets up with him. But actually, i would suggest you do not meet him. Seriously, there are better guys out there in school/neighbourhood or around your town you can meet. You will find more fulfilment, greatness and happiness. And more importantly, he can be there for you physically to share you ups and downs.
P/S: Really, don't go meet him it can be dangerous. If you have to, meet him with a group of friends and don't go anywhere with him alone before you know him better as a real person. Take care~
2007-12-05 20:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, well, I've met a lot of really wonderful people online, people that in my own life I wouldn't have been able to meet without the internet. I think it depends on the relationship. If you're married and having a flirtatious sexual relationship with someone online, yes, it is cheating. If you are chatting back and forth with a friend you've found you have things in common with and they know you are married, have no intention of carrying it any further, then no, it isn't cheating.
2016-05-28 10:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people often portray them self's differently on the Internet because they often think that their real identities are just boring for the Internet. I could say that I am 34 years old and a mother. But that doesn't mean I am telling the truth.
My point is that this online relationship could work. But don't be surprised if when you see him he is really different then he said he was online.
2007-12-07 06:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rosalie Cullen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I have met some people that I would like to stay in touch with for a long time. I have been stung by some I was sure of their friendship, and they know nothing about it. Some lucky people have found their love, some have not. I'm not expecting anything so grand but i wouldn't complain if It did. To be human is to hope, for friendship, for companionship, for love. You should keep your eyes wide open, and hope for the best. Football coaches speak of the "shrank upon shipment" phenomenon, where a recruit shrinks a couple inches in height, and 15pounds in weight than "advertised specifications". You might be mindful of this if you ever go to meet your cyber best friend,that this may happen to you, but always hope for the best.
2007-12-06 05:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I believe in online relationships. I signed up for a dating site and have been on 3 dates so far with 3 guys and they were all nice and wonderful. But I have fallen for one guy and we have been talking on the phone, thru text, and email and we have been on a handful of dates. So I would say be cautious, and if you two meet up, stay in a hotel or have him stay in one. Dont let him to your house till you get to know him and possible run his name thru a background check.
You have to keep yourself safe.
The site I met my guy thru, they do all the checks for you so I am feeling very safe about it all.
Good luck with the relationship. And Im courious how you can love someone without meeting them? Im guessing you love what you have heard so far. Because you really dont know him, only the online him.
2007-12-05 20:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by crazyjenn99 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DUDE DONT TRUST HIM!!!!
DONT U DARE GO OUT AND MEET HIM
HE COULD BE A 50 YEAR OLD RAPIST FOR ALL YOU KNOW.
please go to the mall and meet some nice REAL guys there
thanks
please
peace of mind dont do it
2007-12-05 20:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ha ha ha...been there done that..that is just playing around with your emotions..i reality,you will not go far with him because he is far away and the pictures he is sending could be someone elses.but all in all you cannot love some one you have not bonded with in person,what you are feeling are just your emotions getting out of control..my advise..go for some one closer to you and you can communicate verbally in person
2007-12-05 20:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jeymo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is always A Chance !
I think we don't have to Ever loose the Faith that it could happened.
Life is complicated and it's changing with every single minute.
That's why it worth living!
2007-12-05 20:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by Incognito 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't fall for it! He could be a 50yr old rapist! The pictures he sent you could be somebody else or copy and pasted from another site.
2007-12-05 20:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋