How do I cope with my mother in law?

Question

I've recently had a baby.It's my boyfriends mothers first grandchild to her only son. She has been making fun of my routine, she believes that the baby has to be nursed all the time. She won't put my baby down even when she's sleeping. She's controlling, makes smart ar@e comment about my parenting, she has called me a bad mother when myself and her son have had arguements, she tells my boyfriend everything I tell her to start arguements with me and him. I really believe she thinks shes the mum. How do I tell her to back off? It's my turn, she's had hers. I go back to work next year and she'll be looking after my baby, only I don't want her to. My mum does a good job at it. They'll both share the babysitting. But I'm worried because she talks badly to my daughter about me, even though she's doesn't understand, she will eventually.I believe she's looking for an excuse to try and take custody of my daughter because she failed with her only son. How do I tell her to stop all this nonsense?

Answer 1

She's crossing a line, and you need to tell your boyfriend in no uncertain terms that this is unacceptable. It is already putting a strain on your relationship with him, and it can only get worse if he doesn't hear you out and tell his mother to back off and leave you alone. You can always secretly record some of the stuff she says and play it back to him, just in case he doesn't believe you. Confronting her with this will also bring the point home very clearly, especially if you tell her that you will be playing it to your own family, just so everyone you know sees what you have to put up with.

Oh, she'll be in a huff for a while, but she'll get over it.

Answer 2

First of all - do you live with her? if you do, transfer to another home and get out of her claws. Secondly, your mother is a better person to babysit your baby next year not her because she can always just take the baby and tell everyone what a bad mother you are. Your bf either tells his mother to back off or you better stay with your mother first. This is not a healthy environment for you and your baby because the last thing you need right now is to be stressed out, the baby will feel it.