so my boyfriend sister absolutely hates me and i disslike her. she had said that I am not good enough for him and has told him that his whole family thinks I am a gold digger and and trapped her brother by having our child (BTW I made more money that he does), now, everytime i see them all I can think about is what they said about me which is sad because they havent made any effort to get to know me in the last year and a half. I feel like she is trying to break us up by telling him these things and especially since she has told me she can tell him things to break up with me. Is it wrong for me to think she is a horrible pathetic person and I dont want her around me our my family?
2007-12-05 18:33:45 · 15 answers · asked by lukewarm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No matter how much you dislike her she is still your boyfriends sister. You can't say that she can't be around the family because she is part of the family. It will also damage the relationship with your boyfriend if you try and come between him and his sister. Sibling bonds can be very strong. I would not be with someone who told me that my family couldn't be part of our family, no matter how much conflict there is. Besides, even if she is wrong, think about what her motives are. She is probably just trying to protect her brother, and you can't blame her for that.
2007-12-05 18:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that you have a child with this man. Whatever else happens, he will always be in your life because of this child. Nothing this sister can say or do will ever change that.
Now the question becomes is he a good partner and father? Is he supportive and loving? Is the family he's made with you important to him?
You will have to talk to him about his sister's behaviour towards you as this will (and has) become a problem. Tell him how you feel (leave out the pathetic person part) and your concerns for your family and child. Ask him how he feels and what solutions you can come to. This is a problem the two of you should address together, not separately.
2007-12-05 18:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by dstluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean by 'made more money'? do you stay at home? cheat on him? Made an effort to get to know her? I think the same thing about my s.i.l bcuz I know of affairs, her hitting him, not working for more than 3 consecutive mnths since shes been with him. If you don't like it, thats sad, but shes his sister. theyve known each other forever and she may have different values than you(and dissipointed her bro didnt uphold those values) The only thing you can do is avoid her. Not family gatherings like xmas (see if you can bring your fam, or have both fams at your place) but hanging out with her. Let her bro and niece/nephew visit her by themselves. Eventually she'll either grow out of it and realize youll always be there so shes got to put on happy face, or she'll avoid you and talk trash till your both 80. Just don't engage her or give her ammo, thatll just comfirm her tall tales. Let your husband know how it makes you feel, and your plan of action to dealing with her, and just set it in stone.
2007-12-05 18:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by bethan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well luke warm?? that's a horrible name.. by the way.. cursing your self and all...sorry ha..
There might be something wrong with her... but if this happened to me and the Girl I loved family, brother included didn't like me I would just say " I love your daughter and I'm going to be the best husband I can and If you think bad about me that's up to you but only God knows who I really Iam and that's the only opinion that matters"
yep yep
p.s Don't hate her or you will become just like her, you become what you hate, and the person who angers you is your master...
2007-12-05 18:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Neweyes777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just worry about U, your child & him. The more U let it bother U, the more problems it will cause w/ your significant other. If the sister see's U reacting to her problem starting she's going to continue & only get worse.
Might be harder than taking care of your baby, but you need to act like it doesn't bother U. Go on w/ your new life and the drama will eventually stop.
Congrats on the baby. :)
2007-12-05 18:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer even circulate on your sister, circulate rapidly on your mum and dad or parent and tell them. do no longer use drama or exaggerate, tell them the reality rapidly out. If he keeps to challenge you and additionally you opt for to no longer say something, it may desire to steer as much as a rape or you getting harm. Sisters have a manner of thinking their little sisters lie approximately each thing, exceedingly for interest. probability is she would manage to no longer have faith you, thinks you're jealous, or attempting to get interest. Her boyfriend could desire to even tell her which you got here onto him and this could alter your courting along with her. you are able to desire to tell your mum and dad, or an grownup what's happening rapidly away. while a boy likes you, even while he dates yet another lady, he would not chase when you, touch you once you're saying no and creep you out. this is the sign of a ability abuser. in case you're too afraid or embarrassed to tell your mum and dad, do it on your sister,. She could resent you for a short whilst yet greater desirable that she no longer be with an asshole or somebody who could harm her in the top.
2016-10-19 09:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by poore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably dislikes you for some reason, but if your boyfriend loves you truely, that shouldn't make any difference for him. Your boyfriend loves both you and his sister and since you and his sister don't get along, then the best thing is for your boyfriend to keep you and his sister separately. I mean not involving you and his sister in any matter. He should also not meet you in front of her or meet her in front of you.
2007-12-05 18:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Extreme Passion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, well she is too protective and it is normal in a family for there to be jealousy and rivalry so you just have to handle that without letting it get to you !
You are both working so why not go on holiday with your little one and hubby and just be a happy family.
You can move where she won't bother you !
Why not ccome to Switzerland, at least for your holiday !
Welcome !
2007-12-05 18:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by Love life and share happiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your boyfriend have to say about this? If its okay for him that his sister badmouths you at every chance - girl, find another guy. Just because you have a kid with him doesn't excuse him for letting his sister walk all over you.
2007-12-05 18:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when we find someone else offensive it is because we see something in their behavior that we subconsciously don't want to look at in our own behavior.
Look closely at yourself and discover what you have been avoiding. Work on yourself and your problems with sis may just go away.
2007-12-05 18:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋