Well, I loved her, and now I have to give her up for reasons I don't want to go into, it'd take forever.
2007-12-05 16:14:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is NO SUCH THING as a "quick fix" for a broken heart - it is SUPPOSED to take time ;);););)
2007-12-05 16:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will take time; don't rush into another relationship until you are over this one. Every day, plan a specific period of time that you will allow yourself to obsess about her. You can use that time to write in a journal or to take a long walk where nobody will notice if you suddenly burst into tears. Allow yourself to cry. The shower is a great place. If you are still communicating with her, cut that off for a month and see if, after that, you still want to be in touch. Stay busy. Throw your energy into school, work, or volunteer activities where you are doing some good for the world. She will always be a part of you and the good things about your relationship will help you become a better person.
2007-12-05 16:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by Rainbow Connection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you really loved her you'd still be with her, so were not trying to mend love which is probably a good thing because thats prolly nearly impossible. Anyway I think the best way is to become friends with her, i know it sounds crazy but it helps you put her in a new light and helps you care for her only as a friend and nothing more. Also if you take your next relationship slow it will ease away the pain.
2007-12-05 16:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by miss_chelsea_stone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Jonathan T, wish I could say something that didn't sound so cliche,
You can look at it 2 different ways, or look back at it I guess
1. You can look at all the good times you had and be thankful for those, remember them with a smile (really have a smile it doesn't hurt)
2. you can look at all the good times you had and mope and cry, be miserable
Not really much to choose from I know. We've all been there, most of us, several times. I guess were living proof life goes on, so....
Smile, have a cold one and get ready for the next ride!
Who knows what's coming next
Good luck!
2007-12-05 16:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by emtp911 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more productive, it will take your mind off of it. It will always be there but only for a while. Shouldn't take you more than 6 months, hopefully less than that to get over her.
Hang out with your friends more, read books, learn a new hobby. If she hung out with your friends then try to make new friends or hang out with friends that don't associate with her.
eventually in time, if everything went smoothly (don't know what your situation is) you may be able to become friends with her but not have the same feelings as you did before.
2007-12-05 16:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love isn't a choice my friend. you CANNOT just stop loving someone instantly. The best way to DETATCH yourself from her and stop thinking about her is to avoid talking and being around her. slowly you should feel more and more detached from her as days, months, or even years go by. Remember, love is not a choice! hope that helps. I know because I think I might have faced a similar situation as yourself when i was younger
2007-12-05 16:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by bayareazfinnest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to beat an addiction is to find a new one! Find a hobby and keep yourself busy. Anything to keep your mind off her will be best.
Meeting new people, going to shows, chatting online, playing video games. Just stay busy and always resist the urge to call or check in.
Good luck, hope you do well!
2007-12-05 16:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart's broken now but the good part is that it will heal...It's hard to believe that it will heal but it will, as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow...best thing to do is keep busy and replace that person with another, as hard as it may seem to do, start a new life with another...your love for the new person will be stronger because you will receive as well as give...
2007-12-05 16:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ernie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG im trying to do the same thing but every time I look at a different girl i think of her and i know im in love with her...just go with your heart. Thats all i got to say here.
2007-12-05 16:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by kyle d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok. whew. so. just tell her it isnt working out. because it isnt, rite? come clean. tell her the truth. thats the best. it will hurt, at least a little, or maybe a lot. but it will hurt even more if u wait too long. waiting too long is horrible. its like walking slowly through a thorny rosebush and byt the time u walk out, ur all scratched up. its horrible. but dont just run up to her and say "we arent workin out and im breakin up with u". thats just creepy. normal pace. normal pace.
2007-12-05 16:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by yellowdancinyogo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling...
Time heals all pain, my friend. There isn't much you can do to stop thinking about her, just try and get out with other friends, and try not to think about her.
Ultimately, only time can help you.
2007-12-05 16:20:12 · answer #11 · answered by Luke. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋