2007-12-05 15:55:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Not adopt, no. You could have someone take your child temporarily, but it would have to be a private agreement, not necessarily a process through the courts, although it would still require a lawyer and would cost a penny or two. Just remember that it's really damaging a traumatizing to move a child back and forth from home to home. That's why the courts won't give a child back to one parent once it's been with the other for a few years. It's traumatic. Just decide what you want before you make any decisions. Adoption is forever.
When I was three, my mother walked out on my father, and he couldn't afford my brother and I on his own. He worked out a private agreement with my (now) adopted mother. The arrangement was supposed to be temporary, but the day of his first visit, she had a family friend, who happened to be a doctor, say that we had been abused by my father. The rest is history, and he didn't have the oportunity to see us again for ten years. And at that point he didn't want to disrupt us, so he waited for us to find him. I talk to him now, and my mother too...but it's cause me alot of emotional distress and insecurity in my adult life. Just think long and hard about your decision. Good luck to you.
2007-12-05 16:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by still waiting 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to read up on adoption it is meant to be permanent. Now birthparents have a window that they can reclaim their birthchild the time frame varies depending on the state/agency, the longest is typical several months. They cant just decided 3 years later they want the child back.
The only way a birthparent could get a child back after reclaim period has expired is
a. adoption was not done right.
b. Birthfather was not informed /no one tried to contact him. Then the adoption would not be legal.
c.If the adoptive parents decided to place the child for adoption , then the birthparent(s) could try and adopt the child if they want.
Open Adoption varies but the birthparents are not getting the child back. Sometimes only photos and letters are exchanged. Sometimes birthparents see their birthchild once or twice a year. Some open adoptions are very open like poster Cowboy fan she said her son sees his birthmother every few months. There are some that are even more open then that.
What you might look into is temporary guardianship or temporary foster care.
2007-12-05 18:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, if you give up your child for adoption you give up your rights. If that child is placed in a home then no, I don't think you should have that baby back. Usually though parents have, I think, up to 6 months after putting there baby up for adoption to change their mind. Also, courts usually favor the "Birth mother" in a lot of cases. Read the small print on the paper work!!!
2007-12-05 15:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Noah's Mommy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes a doctor can help arrange an open adoption.
That's where you can be involved in the child's life.
But the adoptive parents make a huge emotional investment.
It's unlikely they would ever agree to surrendering the child.
What you are asking for is Foster Care; see a social worker.
2007-12-05 16:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by Robert S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. Adoption is for keeps. Taking your child back after allowing it to be adopted would cause a great amount of trauma for the child. It is a hard decision to make, but it's best for the baby if you can't provide a good home for him or her. I hope you make the right decision.
2007-12-05 16:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
A child is not a toy. You can't just have them when it's a good time for you. They are either yours or they're not. Now there is something called open adoption where you can be part of your biological child's life, but you can't just get him/her back whenever you like. Your child will be the adoptive parents child.
2007-12-05 15:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Behind Green Eyes 3 · 10⤊ 1⤋
No. Adoption is a legal process and once made official, is permanent. There can be stipulations where in the initial agreement, they can agree upon visitation, and allow you the right to be in the child's life, but you can't simply change your mind and regain custody of the child.
2007-12-05 15:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by ericamarie0303 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
im sorry 2 say if its all gone thru n papers signed then no.when the child is 18 it can trace u,but thats it im afraid.sorry
2007-12-05 15:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by lisa w 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Only in the daydreams of every parent of a 13-year-old.
"Ahhhhh, meeeeee."
2007-12-05 16:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by Rick A 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't want your child you should have thought of that before you had unprotected sex. Step up and be a parent your children need you to be there for them, its not about you anymore.
2007-12-05 16:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by ilikepink 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋