handle an abusive spouse
I will be leaving soon ;;God willing''
but,in the meantime,I try to just pretend I am staying in a compfy shelter
obviously,when hes home(which really isnt much) this is hard to do,and all those horrible emotions come flooding back!!
I have soo much hurt/anger towards him
I know i will let go of this when i am away from him,but while im still living with him,its hard to let it go
if I didnt have a baby,I would be gone already,but in the best interest of the baby,I am waiting it out a couple months to go to a safe shelter
so please,any tips on how to handle,the horrible emotions I have when he walks in the door??
2007-12-05 15:42:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are in fear of your life and there is not much you can do to handle those emotions. You do need to get out of there and get to a safe house, place or what have you and THAT is in the best intrest of you and your baby. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TAKE THAT!
Since you refuse to, however, 1 Peter has a help for you. Verses 3&4. Just pray over him and Thank God for protecting you from anymore of his outbursts. If you stay diligent in this I believe he will be more passive and less likely to keep it up until you get out or until God does His thing on him. (Goodness why do you women feel you always have to stay with guys like that?) I will be praying for you as I submit this and for him, too.
God, thank You in the Name of Jesus that You open this woman's husbands mind and heart to Your Holy Spirit. Thank You that You have out a more passive heart in him even now. Bless You Father that he has gotten less and less aggressive with each Word of this prayer. Thank You that this baby is and will be protected. You tell us to call out to You and that is what we are doing now. You have the power Father and You also want to help us when we call out like this. Thank You that every evil work is being cast aside right now. Thank You that the enemy will not triumph. Thank You that The Holy Spirit is working on her behalf and openning up his heart to You. Thank You for making a way where there seems to be no way. Thank You for Your Truth and Your love for this family. Thank You Father for You alone have all the glory and honor in this. Give this woman help and a way, In Jesus name.
God Bless you and keep you in the protection of His Truth.......
2007-12-05 16:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by xgarmstrong 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I feel as long as you're stable enough yes! You aren't a child nor do you live @ home so I don't really see the issue. I'm also 18 years old and pregnant and our situations are alike (I guess), although unlike yourself though I'd already graduated before becoming pregnant Even so, like yourself I have my own apartment, I have a full-time job working @ a University, and a man who is in my life every single day making sure we're ok. You can't and DON'T listen to what people say all the time; being a young mother doesn't make you a bad mother at ALL. Your going to hear all sorts of things being young and pregnant. As long as you take care of yours (and I mean TAKE CARE of yourself and child) you'll be fine....GOOD LUCK & CONGRATULATIONS
2016-04-07 21:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't say 'in the best interest of your baby'.
Because the best interest of your baby would be to move out. It is a form of child abuse when children witness domestic violence. It is a criminal offence - not on your behalf, but on your partner's behalf.
There aren't any tips for handling the abuse. You really need to consider what is in the best interest of your baby and get out. Go and stay with family, with friends or in a caravan park.
Babies can sense things, and if you're stressed, that isn't good for the baby either. Alternatively, call a Domestic Violence Helpline - they may be able to offer you a/some referral/s to safe places you can go.
Goodluck,
2007-12-05 15:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by miss_tinkerbell_fairy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you waiting for space at a women's shelter?
I know how hard it is .
Does he hit or threaten you?
You are probably better off staying with a friend or loved one that you can trust, and somewhere he has no access to.
Even uttered threats or other verbal abuse hurt babies, should not be tolorated.
You don't have to wait. But if you do decide to have him removed from your home , make sure you and your baby are safe.
Praying for you. XXX
2007-12-05 15:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is abusive....you may not have a couple of months. One slap or fist too many may be your last. Leave NOW. You and your baby deserve better. Don't stay around just because of the baby, that's not a good environment for a child to grow up in. Be smart and get yourself away from him before he hurts you or worse.
2007-12-05 15:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by GraycieLee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know the specifics of your situation, so forgive me for asking: are you sure it's in your child's best interest for you to stay another couple of months? Because, honestly, the only way to "handle an abusive spouse" is to get away from him as quickly as possible. It's not even healthy for you to try to put yourself in a mental state that makes staying with an abuser more palatable for you, even short-term.
Is there something we can do to help you get out of the situation now? Many of us are available by email.
2007-12-05 15:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by BAMAMBA 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
<>< I have never been in your situation so I am really not sure how to handle but I would think prayer would help with the "horrible emotions". Also deep breaths when you are feeling anger or overwhelming emotions while counting to 10 can sometimes help me. Are you sure you cannot somehow manage to get out of there sooner? I know I will pray for you and your child.
2007-12-05 15:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoogirl 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have never been in the situation but why wait for a couple months? Do you not have any family you can go to now? If he is abusive you never know when he could hurt you or the baby. I say run now.
2007-12-05 15:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bible warrior 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
ForGiveNess.
ForGive.
ForGiving Sets YOU Free.
GOD Almighty will Take Care of the Rest of IT.
You Reap What you Have Sown.
Put it in GOD's Hands by Forgiving.
2007-12-05 16:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by maguyver727 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the number for a local womans shelter and ask for help right away...abuse never gets better, you just learn over time to tolerate the increase in violence and abuse.
If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your baby.
Yes, stop trying to handle it-get out now.
2007-12-05 15:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by patrick m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋