My husband and I have been married 4 years. I have known his family that long as well. My husband is eldest and has to go. The family never took to me because we live in FL and I am very beautiful. The problem is that the funeral is in NY. I don't want to go because it upsets me. I want to support my husband but feel pressured to go. My husband is 61 and says he will drive straight through all night to NY. He refuses to fly. Also we have a brand new puppy that is not trained. What is the correct ettiquette on these situations. Also, no one told us until today that he was is hospice care. He was taken 11/27. I have done everything I could for his family but I get no respect back. I really don't want to be around miserable people. I also don't want my husband to die in a car wreck. He cannot see like he used to. Also I'm LPN and the family used to literally dump his parents on us so they could go in the house and steal. I am so sick I do not know what to do.
2007-12-05 15:39:34 · 7 answers · asked by MaggieMae 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to go with him. This isnt about his family it is about him. He shouldnt be driving alone and you need to be thinking of him right now, not his family or the puppy. Youre selfishly thinking of every possible reason to not go. You married for better or worse. Ok right now you have to deal with worse but he isnt the one causing it, so you should be with him. And dont whine about his family while he is grieving.
2007-12-05 17:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would go because you are not going for the family you are going to support your husband and be there for him in his time of need. They did not like you then, they will not like you now and they probably will never like so what the hell. My mom always told me when a person constantly has something bad to say about you whether it is true or not they are jealous and they can not deal with the life-style that you have and the love that you have for your husband. Go to the funeral for your husband and tell the family to kiss your ***. Your husband need you more than they do.
2007-12-05 15:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find a kennel for the puppy, pack you and your hubby's things, get in the car, and go. When you are at the funeral, you wear a nice dress, act like a lady and smile. Make nice, even when nobody else is willing to contribute the ingredients. As much as you can at the funeral, stay with your husband. If he is any kind of man, he should protect you from his family's barbs.
When you get stung, you don't need to mention it to your husband, he is grieving. Just remember - friends are God's apology for family.
2007-12-05 15:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing to do is go and support your husband. It is his father. Even though you will be miserable he will be happy to have someone there for him and he will remember that you went for him. This isn't about how rude or impolite his family is to you its about supporting your husband in his time of need. Just hold your tongue and go and pay your respects. There is no reason for you to be as rude or impolite as they are to you. Put your puppy in a kennel while your away. He will be fine.
Sorry about you and your husbands loss.
2007-12-05 15:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You listed every conceivable reason you could think of for not going to the funeral, now you are here for a few more. Regardless of your feelings, you should be concerned for your husband at this time. Suck it up and get in the car and go.
2007-12-05 15:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the dog in a kennel and try to talk your husband into a flight. Driving at this time of year is crazy, and you will be gone too long.
Honey, believe me, at your age, you are not so beautiful that people hate you.
2007-12-05 15:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find a doggy day care and go. Be there for your husband.
2007-12-05 15:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋