My bf's son pouts when he doesn't get his way over EVERYthing now, tells us he's "angry at us" when we correct his behavior, or goes and makes a pouty face ands stands with his chin on his hands at a table.
Is this typical? What's the best way to handle it? Often we ignore it or tell him that he can't have his way or act a certain way all the time and take something away or something, but is there a better way to be dealing with this?
2007-12-05 15:19:22 · 8 answers · asked by IAskUAnswer 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That is very normal... especially if you are new to the picture and he is not used to sharing his daddy.... It sounds like you are handling it well... make sure it is the dad disciplining him and not u so there is no resentment to u. As long as he is not having a screaming/crying fit or hitting, I think it sounds like he is dealing with his anger ok. My son used to say pretty much the same thing... I would just come down to his level (eye to eye) and tell him that it was ok to be upset but that he can't have his way all the time. If he couldn't follow the rules then he was sent to the naughty corner or his room until he behaved.
Good luck..
2007-12-05 15:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by ctmooch2003 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal. My four-year-old daughter is the same way. I don't recommend ignoring the behavior, though, since this doesn't usually improve behavior and sometimes can make it worse.
For ongoing problems like this one I usually prepare a little lesson for my daughter. She's old enough to understand reasoning now, so I explain to her why her behavior isn't acceptable. I use my religious principles with the end goal being her happiness. I explain how her behavior is making her unhappy and how she can change it. I do this at a time when she isn't emotionally distraught over the situation and make it a two way discussion so she can express her feelings as well.
After that, I refer back to our talk when she is struggling with the problem and remind her of the other ways she can deal with it. I use basic discipline principles throughout the situation.
If you need additional help with discipline I would recommend the book "123 Magic." It turned my parenting life around. Of course I have adapted it to fit my family's personality, but the basic principles are good, sound advice. Good luck.
2007-12-05 23:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are kids and they will go through these stages. the way to deal with it is to make sure the child learns that it is not okay to be pouting like that and that it is not okay to be saying hurtful or mean things to his parents. Don't ignore it. Put the kid on timeout every time he decides to throw a tantrum over not getting what he wants. when timeout is done (usually you give the child the same amount of minutes as their age...in your case, four minutes), sit down at eye level with the child and ask him if he knows why he was on timeout and if he wants to apologize for his bahavior. Whatever you do, be sure to communicate that his behavior is bad, not him as a person. good luck
2007-12-05 23:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by JaneDoe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man at 4, thats when it's the worst. you just have to break that habit before he gets older. when he does it, make him understand it's wrong. The only way to deal with it is time out and making him understand. Always get down at eye level and tell him how to act. MAKE him understand. If he wants to pout after you get on to him, let him do it. dont let him think that gets him attention. ignore that. thats the best method for kids to learn when they pout.
2007-12-06 02:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by dAyLiTe_DaNcEr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal.
Time out works for most kids when it comes to the Mouthy Attitude, a minute for each year of their age.
He'll eventually get the point and move on to something else to test you with.
2007-12-05 23:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Code Name MOM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unfortunately it doesnt pass until they are about 18.
2007-12-06 01:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think its normal....but you will have to nip it in the but..maybe read something about how to deal with it...
2007-12-05 23:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by sandradee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not your place hon, you arent even his step mom.It is his dad's place and he needs to spank him if nothing else works.Ignoring him wont make it better, he will get worse trying to get your attention and eventually feel like he is not loved or cared for.At least spanking him will tell him he GOT his dad's attention and that certain behaviors WILL be met with unpleasant consequences.
2007-12-05 23:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 6⤋