Is it better to have loved and lost?

Question

...than never to never have loved at all?
I loved, and lost him 3 years ago. We are still friends, but he has since remarried. For all the pain and agony I have gone through, (and am still going through, because I still cry over him sometimes).....I feel that it is better to never have loved at all. If I never met him, I never would be feeling so much pain.

Answer 1

Loving and losing stinks 12 ways to sunday.

it is better to have "not"

Answer 2

To feel is a gift, as you have loved before, you know that you will love again. Just as time goes on........and so would the wounds. A cut bleeds and it hurts for a while but then it starts to heal, it may leave a scare but it will be in the past and it wont hurt anymore. it is just a memory of what happened to you. If you do not dwell on it too much and try to move forward you will. You need to let go as this man has defenlty moved on. You can not change this so please dont cry over it, it is not worth it. Will it get you anywhere ?? wiill it get him back?? NO, no and No. You are only upsetting your self and not changing a thing

Answer 3

That is true but don't you think it was a good experience that love you once had. Know what that is showing you is don't fall in so deep if you don't really know the facts. Its great to love that was just meaning he wasn't the right one for you. What you said about if you never met him you would have never felt so much pain. Well what really would have happend is that you probably would have met someone else and fell in love with with him so if things went bad would you say the same thing about the other guy.

Answer 4

doctor weirds story time is about to commence gather round kiddies

some time ago i broke up with someone and not under the best terms but the honest truth of the matter is this
no matter how we ended the important part is how we began and without her i would never experienced any of the joy that i did

so looking back on it the pain of the breakup was a tiny price to pay for the memories of the good times that ill always have

god almighty that was far too soppy i feel all tacky and unclean now

Answer 5

It is much better to love and lose than never to feel the depths of emotion......you will be in love again, prolly not the same way but, it will happen and you will be better for the experience you've had.
It has happened to a lot of people....you think you had "the one" but they couldn't be "the one" and with someone else there is another person better suited for you, whom will stay with you always Trust...i had one for six years i was wrong now I have the "real one" seventeen years....... you will too

Answer 6

Would you rather not have ever known him, or met him or have those great memories?

Think about everything you learned from that relationship and not on the things you lost. Think of the things you learned.

Better to have loved and lost then not loved at all.

Answer 7

you enjoyed a high that you never would have had as well.and yes you will never forget the person but you can put it behind you and move on and you can't do it sitting at home alone .you need to get out and meet and greet.there will be someone else in your life .be patient and keep busy.

Answer 8

You need to meet someone else to have to turn to. Both for love and companionship. Replace that spot in your heart with that someone new. It may put a new perspective on the old love in that you don't regret it anymore or hurt anymore.

Answer 9

I'm sorry that you feel so badly, but I have to disagree. Eventually your heart will heal, it will take a long time but it will, and each lost love will make it stronger, so you can love your true soulmate even more.

Answer 10

It is better. When you love, you experience an entirely new range of emotions that are worth experiencing (both good and bad). You are a wiser woman for it.