I just found out my dad watches porn?

Question

Help mee! My father let me check my e-mail on his computer and in the search bar there were bad sites!
All of them were like
Pornhub.com/video/001 etc...
What is pornhub?
I am so creeped out,
He told me he never would watch anything like that. when i told him i knew,he told me to leave. Could he be lying about more things? More importantly, is he cheating on my mom?

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He is lacking something sexually!! he hasnt had sex with my momn for the past 3 years!

...or has he?

Answer 1

First off a man looking at porn does not mean he is cheating on her with another woman. You need to talk to him again and tell him your fears. Many men look at porn. Women do not like that men do it but many men do. Tell him HE asked you to do something for him that led to you knowing and that now he cant just tell you to leave, that it bothers you and that all you want to know is does he love your mother and would he cheat on her. Tell him all you need is that reassurance that his family matters to him. If he reassures you and you feel he is telling the truth then just let the rest go. You cant control what a grown man does in the house he pays for. Love him for who he is. He is the only dad youll ever have and now you know he isnt perfect. It does not mean he has no love for you or your mother.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear you are upset by this. It is difficult to understand adult sexuality when you are just growing up.
Your dad may have been upset too, knowing that you found out about it, which is probably why he told you to leave.

Viewing porn does not mean he is any more likely to cheat on your mom. Men like to look at naked women and many of them find the temptation of porn too hard to resist. It does not mean they are unhappy in their relationships.
I'm a bit disturbed that you seem to know about their sex life, or lack of it. I would guess that you must have overheard that when they were rowing or something.
Maybe you could talk to a counsellor at school about the situation and the lack of boundaries in your family. Families need to have respect for each others privacy, and it sounds like you are perhaps being drawn into their marital conflict in ways that are not healthy.
I hope it works out for you - it may help to talk to somebody outside the family, you should not be carrying all of this worry yourself. Good luck.

Answer 4

It would be a long shot if he was cheating on your mom, however it is possible. Perhaps someone else has been using the computer (maybe a brother, or friend) and looking at those sites. Though, after you told him that you knew, he became defensive. If it was me, I would sit down and talk to him about it. It would be shaky if you brought your mom into the conversation as she would probably get a very red face from it.

Answer 5

That is not your bussiness first off. You are a child
You don't have a say in what your father is watching/looking at
he doesn't have to answer to you or ask for your permission.
That between your father and mother.
Alot of things go on between married adults that you don't know about
If you are that concerned about it then tell your mom and dad to put adult gaurd on it to it doesn't pop up while your on the computer. That all you can do
plus if your father has a addiction you bring it to your mother attention

Answer 6

Porn is visually stimulating for some people. Maybe he is lacking something sexually. Sorry to say about your father i know it seems kind of gross. Porn doesn't not always mean cheating. What parent is going to admit to their child that they are watching porn? It's something personal. I am sure he is upset with himself for letting you find it.

Answer 7

Lots of men look at porn it does not mean he is cheating on your Mom she is probably aware he is doing that. I don't personally think it is right but lots of men would disagree with me.

If I were you I would let that go that is a issue between your Mom and Dad this does not concern you or your realtionship with your Dad.

Answer 8

It is normal for a man to watch porn. Also, I don't know ANY parent that would tell their child that they watched porn. What goes on between your mother and father sexually is really not your concern.

Your dad is probably embarrased about being "caught". Don't make a big deal out of it.............It really is more normal than you think.

Answer 9

haha love, its none of your business when he has sex with your mum! he could always do it solo.. which gets me thinking this is why he's watching the porn.
but for you to get involved this would be a little strange.
all men watch porn (except me of course, we have a filter) and its normal.
i guess if you really needed to speak to someone, find a counselor, and speak your mind.
they could advise you properly.. but in the meantime, stay out of the house as often as you can, when they're both home, and things might work themselves out!

Answer 10

Welcome to the world of grown ups.
Your parents do things that they don't tell you about, they don't have to, they are not your children.
What is going on between your mom and dad has nothing to do with you, mom may know about dads stuff or not but it's not your business.
He may have honestly told you he doesn't view that kind of stuff just because he's your dad and he doesn't want you to see him as a grown man with sexual urges, but as just a dad.
He doesn't want to lose your love and respect by admitting to you what he may or may not be viewing. To do so would also force him to admit that you are no longer a child, but are old enough to judge him for things you think he is doing wrong.
Everyone deserves privacy, especially when it has to do with what is or is not going on in the bedroom.