Problems with my aunt?

Question

First of all, my aunt and I disagree on a lot of things. We live in the same house, so she has a lot more of an affect on my life than most aunts would. And right now we are disagreeing over sports. She takes Tae Kwon Do, and she makes me take it with her. Today I was complaining about going, as I do every time she makes me go, because I absolutely hate it. She says I need exercise, and I agree to some extent. I have offered to do a million other things that I would absolutely love to do, like join a swim team, or especially do dance. She says that they are to expensive, but neither her or my mom have ever looked into it at all or tried to find scholarships. So, my aunt always makes me go to Tae Kwon Do with her, and I don't like it. There is no one my age in the class, I don't care for the way it is taught, and I think with something like swimming or dance I could have a chance to meet other girls my own age, not to mention I love swimming and dancing. So anyways, today in the car on

the way to Tae Kwon Do, I was complaining about how I didn't want to go, blah blah blah... She was at first giving me the lecture about how I need exercise, so i responded as I always did with "There are other ways to get exercise that I would actually enjoy" and the argument continued. And then she did something that totally freaked me out, and she started crying, saying that it matters to her and she cares about it and stuff like that. Now I feel guilty for making a 40 year old woman cry! I didn't do anything wrong, really, and my aunt is the last person on earth who I would ever expect to cry. I mean, I don't ask her to share an interest in everything that I like, like writing and video games and swimming and dancing. I don't think it is fair of her to expect me to like Tae Kwon Do when she is forcing me to tale it just because she likes it. she says I haven't given it a fair chance, which I have. I have been going for over 6 months. Not to mention I have a thing against gyms

because I view them as institutions. Dance is really freeing and I just feel better about everything when I'm dancing. I don't want to sound ungrateful or rude or mean, or anything, but I'm really confused.
Ans then today, after Tae Kwon Do class, she just goes "Fine. You can quit. I just don't care anymore" and she sounded depressed or something and she hasn't really been talking to me since. It just confuses me and freaks me out, especially since she started crying on me and everything. I'm only 13, so I'm really not equipped to handle a depressed 45 year old who seems to blame me for the fact that I just don't like the sport of Tae Kwon Do.
Please give me some advice or something!

Now I'm just feeling kinda depressed and weirded out. My aunt is at work, but when she gets back, I have a feeling things are going to get increasingly awkward.

Answer 1

my cousin was the same way! she wanted me to do things i hated because it was supposely good for me. i hated with a passion. wat i did was stop complaining and take it until it was time for dancee or swim(my fav. sports). then ur mom and aunt will see ow much uve grown up and maybe let u do wat u want. i understand about the age thing i would bring a friend with me so i dont feel like im alone. i know its hard but it might work for u!


good luck

Answer 2

Agree on the Tae kwon do for now but they have to allow you to go to a dance class next year - if not, wow. You have a problem. Think of it this way - the tae kwon do teaches a lot of things 0 discipline, strength, self-defense and courage. it isn't the end of the world, you can take up the other classes in the future. But you have to tell both your aunt and your mom that you will only continue with this class if they agree to allow you next year into classes you like.

Answer 3

I really wish parents and extended family would realize their children are not them, will never be them, have their own thoughts and likes and dislikes and none of this is meant to hurt the parents. Ask your Aunt if there was something she wanted to do when she was young that her parents would not let her do and how did that make her feel.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Shoot... I wish someone would pay for me to take martial arts!