seriously though...i have been with my :"fiannce" for 7 years , we have epo beautiful children....and we r in no hurry to be married...what difference does it make having babies out of wedlock, and seriously how will our lives change if we do get married???????
2007-12-05 14:43:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i guess hate talk IS the wrong word....umm "bashing" i suppose is more appropriate
2007-12-05 14:51:53 · update #1
we are perfectly happy, and stable..as for insurance what not i am the benfituary...soo??....and i dont need to make him marry me????...i am not uneducated and why would my daughter get dumped??..we r more stable then half the "married" couples we hang out with....its just not a priority..to me
2007-12-06 01:11:17 · update #2
Obviously you lack an education. You need to read up on why marriage is important.
*There are certain protections that you are entitled to as a married person (social security, life insurance, etc.).
* The statistics don't lie. An easy Google search will show you in black and white that children born to unmarried parents are at a disadvantage.
Why wouldn't you want to provide your child with the very best while protecting your family?
The least you could do if you aren't "in no hurry to be married" is get a decent education.
2007-12-05 15:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I agree with what WI MOM said. Also, married people are happier, knowing that someone cares enough to stick with them through everything. Kids can learn how to care for and nurture another in a committed way. And to whoever said divorce was a pain in the butt, it's supposed to be because you're supposed to be selective in who you marry/sleep with. My husband was my first and only, and I am his. There is no baggage, no kids from other relationships. It's a nice, secure place. You may say it's "not for you" but you don't know what you're missing.
2007-12-06 00:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by KnowItAll 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Isuppose marriage is not everyone's cup of tea. Its only in the olden days that you were expected to be married before having kids. Do what you want, just cause you aren't married doesn't mean you are not committed
2007-12-06 14:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your teaching your kids that having sex without commitment is ok.Some will get girls pregnant then dump them and some of your daughters will get pregnant and dumped.
"I love you",sex and/or shacking is NOT a commitment."I do" is and fiance' for 7 yrs?
LOL.Youll die single hon.If he hasnt married you yet he wont and if he does he will resent you to the point of divorcing you because he will feel like you "made him" marry you.
If your your real selves right now, then your lives wont change after your married, but if your holding back at all it will.
2007-12-05 23:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you guys are committed to each other and your children, then who cares what anyone says...:) I've known unmarried couples with children who are much more committed than some married couples...and the other way around. So long as you're in it for the long haul, you're good, IMO. :)
2007-12-05 22:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage symbolizes a commitment. Some feel for the children's sake, the parents should be committed to each other first. But either way as long as you are happy. xD
2007-12-05 22:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by MadameXCupcake 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its a morality thing i guess u know bible thumpers. i personally didnt have sex til i was married but i have friends that have kids and arent married or in no hurry to get married i see it as hey if it makes you happy go for it. what ever floats ur goat. (yea i know its boat but goat is funnier)
2007-12-05 23:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by ~::JAEL::~ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wish I didn't marry my children's father. It was more difficult to change my name, go through a divorce after we split up, going through the courts for support, visitation. . . I think we should all keep the government out of our private affairs.
it just makes things complicated.... nothing is guaranteed to last forever.
2007-12-05 22:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
yeah i dont know either. i had my first when i wasnt married or even with the father. those people think they are better than unmarried women. and some are probably jealous if they cant get pregnant themselves.
2007-12-05 23:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Tessa♥ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is nothing wrong with what your doing at all. marriage just isn't for some people. To hell with what other people say about it. They have nothing better to do...
2007-12-05 22:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by emmy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋