My kid will not sleep he just yells all the time when we put him to bed. Even when he is on time to bed. We try to put him to bed ever night at nine. He is 19 months! I about to just knock him out! please help!
2007-12-05 14:23:15 · 32 answers · asked by Angel 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He's not spoiled, he's a baby, for goodness sakes! Leaving a child alone to 'cry it out' is ridiculous advice.
Read him a story, rock him, sing to him, or just lie in bed next to him and cuddle. He won't be a baby forever.
2007-12-05 15:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by daa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need a routine for him. A warm bath, brush teeth, put him on your lap and read him a short bedtime story.Also a warm bottle/sippy cup is nice and is calming for them. Let him know it is night night time and that mommy loves him. Put him in bed and leave. Shut the door behind you. Give him 10-15 minutes of crying, them maybe check up on him ( the first time). If he continues, try longer. He may just need to cry it out. It is harder on the parents then it is on the child.
Also- Is he afraid of the dark? ( maybe get a night light). Does he have something to snuggle with in bed ( a little blankey bear, fuzzy blanket)? Does he have a tummy ache, teething?
You also may need to start a little earlier to put him in bed. The other thing is, put him in bed when he is getting sleepy not when he is already asleep. When they wake up from this state they are confused as they are not in the same place they were when they fell asleep.
The other option possibly is the opposite- keeping him up a little later? Then move the bed time up more and more. I would only try this as a last resort.
Good Luck to you!!!
2007-12-05 14:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ro 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never respond to a yelling child that isnt injured. Put him to bed let him scream his head off if he wants. If you ignore him he will stop eventually. each night the yelling will get shorter. Whatever you do after you put him to bed do not have any contact with him until morning. My kids went to bed at 8 until they were teenagers and basically still do.I didnt care if they went to sleep or not but each was in his /her room and quiet at 8. Off and on they may have had a tv or playstation or only books 8pm to 10 pm was mom and dad time. Yes you have a child and you want to care for them but you still have a life of your own. You need some time for yourself. No reason a 19 month old shouldnt be able to go to bed at night and be alone till morning.
2007-12-05 14:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by sfcjoe4d 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yelling at bed time is one form of tantrum. This is normal part of child development.
Toddlers are creatures of habit and routine. Any slight change affects their mood. As they cannot express themselves they vent their frustrations.
Try some bedtime bath and lotion. Then put him to bed with a lamp on and read a book to them.
Allow 15 minutes and then let him drop off.
Be persistent on the fact that its time to go sleep.
Don't be harsh because that will just upset them and you will have to take double time to calm them back down.
Its going to take A LOT of patience, but if you do this every night and at nap time it will eventually pay off.
Sometimes we just need to understand from their point of view as they cannot fully express themselves.
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2007-12-05 16:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dan B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is overtired...9 seems a bit late...(not being critical)
I'm afraid u will just have to stay consistent & percevere with it...my son is 3 & he has a routine of getting up, having a drink & carrying on a bit before falling asleep...its the same thing most nights...I turn off the light & shut the door & make him promise he will go to sleep before putting it back to normal again...it's hard work, but keep up with it, it will pay off...
ur doing well...it can be really frustrating, I know!
2007-12-05 14:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him to bed and let him yell. I know this is aggravating, but over a very short period of time the yelling will stop. He is throwing a temper tantrum and if you give into it, the problems you're having at 19 months won't be nearly so bad as the problems you'll have at 19 years.
2007-12-05 14:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by dstluke 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's not spoiled, it's being a toddler. Do you have a routine with him? Give him a bath, get him changed for bed, brush his teeth, read a few books, and then it's lights out. I do this with my three - year - old. After we read, I rock him in his rocking chair for a few minutes and sing to him. He gets nice and relaxed, and then I help him over to his bed. He pretty much goes to sleep with no problem. On occasion he'll ask to get back up to use the bathroom, but then it's right to bed.
2007-12-05 15:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by SoBox 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't. Wake him up nice and early tomorrow. And the day after that, and the day after that. He'll get tired and start going to bed at a reasonable time, though he will be cranky and a pain to deal with until he finally gives in.
It takes way less of your energy to wake them up than it does for you to keep trying to put them to bed. After all, you can just turn on and crank up a radio, etc.
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2007-12-05 14:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Damocles 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 08:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with going to bed at the same time every day, and explain to him the routine that will precede it, such as "First we are going to take a bath. Then after that we will read three books. Then we will turn out the light. I will sing one song, then you will hug your teddy bear and we will close the door, and you will go to sleep." Explain it over and over, each step of the way. Pretty soon he will enjoy the routine. Also, I am currently babysitting 5 kids under 4 years and I make sure they go ALL OUT letting all their energy out, including jumping all over the place, running, screaming - all that stuff toddlers LOVE to do. Then he will actually be tired. Hope that helps!
2007-12-05 14:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Angie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋