…..argument with both my brother and sister-in-law…over her bad habit of starting a fight with my brother during any family function. It doesn’t matter if it’s a birthday party, anniversary, communion, graduation it could be whatever maybe even a funeral…..somehow some way a fight between them would erupt be a display for everyone to see.
So of course I was having a little get together with the family. When halfway into the party they seemed to be getting into another one of their fiasco, so my baby sister (she’s 20) just calmly stated that everyone was looking. Well she came out of her face and told my sister to stay out of her mouth and mind her business. Well its one thing to talk your nonsense to your husband, but when it comes to my family members it’s a whole different story. So in an instant my temper went to boiling point. I walked over to now three of them and asked to speak to them both privately. As we were walking to my dining room she continued her garbage with my brother. I basically told them both that if they feel a need to have their conversation they either find a private place to continue their mess or they can continue it out of my house, because I will not have my guest and feel uncomfortable in my own house because of their issue. She got real upset and say that my sister shouldn’t have said anything to her and that she was a child out of her place. I told her what my sister did was right because she was the one who was acting like a child and if she had any problem with the way I conducted myself in my own home she can choose to leave. They both left and the party continued and was a success, but my parents agreed that something had to be done but they are both afraid I have started a rift. I am not concerned about them being in or out of my life, but I don’t want problems either. What do you think?
2007-12-05 14:16:05 · 2 answers · asked by Naomi L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Bravo for standing up to her and doing the right thing. Obviously neither of them have any sense.
2007-12-05 14:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by ziggy_brat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled yourself very well. Its unfortunate that they feel the need to bring down the rest of the world with their issues, not like we dont get out of the house for a night out to avoid hearing that ourselves.
It sounds like they have issues between themselves and you have every right - seeing how its been a long time coming- to ask them to refrain from they bickering while at your home with guests attending. And if they dont like it, well at least you know you're no longer keeping the advil companies in business...
It might start an issue, but it sounds like this was an issue before and they will be hard pressed to find someone in the family who is willing to listen to them bicker all the time.
I honestly dont believe your sister was out of her place and that she was a child... it sounds like she said what needed to be said, as painful as it might have been to your SIL. Your SIL probably took it as an insult that someone younger then her is telling her how to conduct herself in public, a low point in anyones life.
But thumbs up to you and your sister for standing up for yourselves and for having the guts to make change happen.
2007-12-05 22:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋