I said something I did not mean...and put my wonderful mother into tears...could I please have some advice?

Question

I am a 19 year old sophomore in college. In a discussion about an hour ago, I indirectly told my mother that I was ungrateful for what her and my father have been able to provide me with thus far in my life...which has been pretty much everything. In response, my mother began sobbing, said that I was a wonderful kid, and that she is sorry that I was not born into a "better family." I did not mean what I said...it was in the heat of the moment. I love my family more than anything in the world, and without them I am nothing. I am more than grateful for everything that I have. What I did was wrong. Now that the damage has been done...is there anything I can do or say to prove how much I love my mother, and how grateful I am for everything her and my father have done for me? Thank you so much for your advice...I feel like such an awful, and ungrateful child.

Answer 1

You've said it on here, now print it off and hand it to your mother. She loves you, she'll forgive you and know you didn't mean it.

Believe me I know. My daughter said horrible things to me when she was a teen, but I knew she didn't mean them, she was just hurting and trying to hurt me. I never held it against her, love is unconditional. Your mom will feel the same.

Don't forget this lesson, once said its hard to take back.

Answer 2

Send flowers (immediately! Get someone to deliver them. NOW!!) with a handwritten note saying all the nicely written things you put into this posted question. Then sit down and write another note. List all the sacrifices you know your parents made for you and beside each one list how you benefited from them. About 1/2 hour after you know she got the flowers, go to her house (or call if you are too far away) and show/read her the second note. Tell her you said what you said in the heat of the moment and you are so very sorry and you never meant to make her cry. She sounds like a wonderful mom and I am sure she will understand. Good luck. I know you must feel awful right now.

Answer 3

If you are close enough to drive over to her house then get over there. If it's too far then get on the phone and apologize. Tell her just what you said here. With something so hurtful she may never forget it. However, you can apologize, reassure her you didn't mean it, then spend some time doing things to remind her you do love her. I doubt she's going to hold a grudge or refuse to forgive you. I'm sure you already know you said something you can't really take back. All you can do is be careful not to say those kinds of things in the future.
I'd follow up the phone call with even a short note or card of apology and another reminder of how much you love her. Best of luck!

Answer 4

are you at home or at school. If at home stop by the local walmart and pick up a dozen roses...always mindful of the budget, this should set you back about $10.00...BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY IS THE CARD THAT YOU ARE GOING TO ATTACH WITH THEM.
Forgive my ignorance (this is why I am in college), you are the best mother a child could ask for and I never want to be the cause of your tears again. I will spend the rest of my life in awe of how much your love means to me. I hope you can forgive me.

Or something like that. Make it sound the way you want it to
but do it.
If you are away from home, this gets a bit more tricky (since it is more expensive and there are restrictions as to what you can say on the card due to space) but you can manage.
The trick is that you want to give her a TANGIBLE reminder to erase what you said....but not jewelry. The flowers will make her smile and in a few days they will be gone and so will the bad memory.
P.s. Dont be so hard on yourself. No one is perfect! IT takes a person of great character to admit when they have made a mistake (tell your mom that you learned that from her too).

Answer 5

First of all, your mother will always love you. Children say some awful things to their parents and of course parents can get hurt, but they ultimately realize these things are said in anger and are not heartfelt. Tell her exactly what you said here, that you said it in anger and didn't mean it, that you love her and appreciate everything she's done for you. She'll forgive you in the end. Lucky for you, Christmas is right around the corner, how about getting her a heartfelt Christmas card, one of those sappy Hallmark ones that says you love her and appreciate her. Then write a little apology and send it on its way. Your mother will be touched that you thought of her and everyone loves receiving mail.

Answer 6

I am fifteen, and I know what you mean. I have greatly disappointed my mom a LOT in the past month. I love her more than anything, yet I am still giving her reason not to trust me and to think that i am ungrateful as well. talking to her is about the only thing that you can do...Alot of people on here have told me to print the questions that i ask off and show them to my mom, I have done that, and it helped, maybe if you show her yours, she will realize just how grateful you really are. I hope that i helped.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Actions speak louder then words,you must have meant some of what you said, ask your self why and what it was that made you lash out at her, something is bothering you, so you lash out the first thing that comes out of your mouth, think about it, then apologies and tell her what is really bothering you, you just do not come out with things like that for no reason, so first self examinations, then a sincere heart felt hug, and apologies, then explain what it is that is really going on in that head of yours, good luck

Answer 9

Can you sit down and write the most heartfelt letter you have ever written in your life? and may be send flowers?

Or better yet, get back on the phone and ask she forgive you for your ungratefulness. Tell her how much they mean to you.
And remind her you wouldn't have asked for any other parent s EVER!

Answer 10

Share your letter with her and also tell her all she has done that has made you a better person. Every mothers day I tell my mother something she has done that still effects my life positively today and tell her she contributed to the person I am.