As a pre-teen, I feel that sex is O.K. for me. Am I right?

Question

I check out a book called "Dr. Ruth Talks To Kids: Where You Came From, How Your Body Changes, and What Sex Is All About". In her book, she says that protection is 100% recommended. Even if I do get pregnant, I can go on birth control or have an abortion. She didn't specify what age to start. She only said teens. Is she right or does this book need to be pulled out of libraries?

B.T.W.- I'm 13.

Answer 1

I'm 13 too--and if you're in 8th grade like me, I would strongly recommend focusing on your studies. We have WAY too much going on to get pregnant! And if you had a child, would you really want it taken away from you? I may be young, but I know that would be an absolutely awful feeling, to have that child be a part of you and then have it taken away.

We ARE too young to risk this kind of thing--I'm not saying you should wait until you're married, but at least until you're out of school with a good-paying job and a place of your own. The last thing your parents want is to raise ANOTHER kid =)

Answer 2

This has nothing to do with whether a book is in a library or not.

At 13.you will have opinions of your own, but they are based on limited experience.
And just for the record, just because you read something in a book, it does not make it so.

As you can imagine, most parents (and grandparents) would recommend against 13 year olds having sex. Why do you suppose that is?

You may not have decided yet how you personally feel about abortion, but in some people's eyes, it is not an act of birth control as much as an act of murder. You are entitled to your own beliefs, but you better know what you believe about these things before you put them to the test.

Answer 3

Only 13 years old and already have the attitude of abortion is OK if I mess up! I know a girl who had several abortions before she was married. It messed up her reproductive system so much that she can no longer have children...even though she is now married and would love nothing better than to have a child! If you think abortion is easy, you'd better think again!

Her book shouldn't be pulled out of the libraries...her book needs to be read by someone who is mature enough to understand what Dr. Ruth is trying to tell you by informing you of the risks involved and remedies available. Of course protection is 100% recommended...and that goes for everyone having sex with different partners before marriage.

Sex is certainly NOT OK for you...you're dead wrong!

Answer 4

There is no definite age to start, but I would recommend not having sex until you're at least 16, unless you want to look like a whore. It's really not that great, and teenage guys aren't very good anyways.

If you're that horny, go to Spencer's Gifts in pretty much any mall and buy a sex toy. I'm not even saying this to be dirty, but it's a better solution than going out and screwing somebody. Besides, 85% of the time, your vibrator will make you orgasm MUCH better than your boyfriend. (You can get them for like, $7, just find a hiding place). I know, this sounds kinda bad, but think about it. If you were a parent, would you rather know your kid has a sex toy to pleasure themself, or they have a boyfriend to do it for them?

Protection isn't 100% effective, and abortion shouldn't be used as a method of casual birth control.

Answer 5

You're 13 and you feel that sex is ok for you at the moment? Grow up. You have so many years ahead of you, sex and relationships should be the last thing on your mind right now. Yeah, of course protection is recommended. Do you honestly think you could raise a child of your own at the age of 13?? NO.

Stop thinking about it. It's thoughts like the ones in that book that lead to children getting stupid ideas. As a consequence, children have children. Wait until you have fully matured and are with someone who you trust.

Answer 6

Its not about age, it's about maturity. Most thirteen year lods would be too immature, yes. Physically and emotionally.
If you must: Use condoms, go on the pill BEFORE you have sex, yes an abortion is a possibility but as a last resort hopefully.


Anyway I think you are trolling to annoy people because you are an adult who doesn't want kids reading this book. You want protests don't you? You don't write in the style of a thirteen year old girl.

Answer 7

im 16 and i don't follow any religion yet ive put a limit on having sex until adfter high school has finished (so for me around age 18) i did this because its when i think i will be emotionally ready because physically sure im ready now but i don't think i could handle that emotionally yet.
and if im not ready then, then it can wait longer.
its such a big thing and im ok with the idea, i just think u should be completely comfortable and ready for it. if ur questioning it even a little bit then urnot ready, i especially think that teen/pre-teens are not ready.
we've got so much other emotional baggage and stuff to deal with i think this is just too much.
all the people i know who've done it in my year (very few people actually) areemotionally unstable or are already on the wrong tracks in a way of speaking.
just think to urself, if i was 40 or watever and i had a child like me, would i want her having sex at such and age, or focussing on other things like making solid friendships, setting themselves up for wat they want to do in life and having loving relationships with their family.
i don't think the book sounds bad enough to be pulled out of libraries but i wouldnt promote sex at such an age.
im ready to wait, are u?

Answer 8

ok dont listen to these other people. u could be mature enough to have sex at 13 i am 15 n am going to have sex for the first time with my gf (who barely turned 14 a month ago) we are both very mature and and are ready. as for if u get pregnant, u cant take birth control AFTER ur pregnant it wont work. i advise that u go on the pill if u want but ALWAYS use a condom also ur not a preteen 13 is the start of teen years n ends at 19

Answer 9

You are way to young for sex the book is there for information but you need to mature a little bit more before even think about having sex wait until you are of legal age.

Answer 10

FARRRRR too young...believe me. Sure protection is 100% recommended for when the couple is ready to have sex, but no 13 year old is ready.....it is something that should be shared with someone that you are truly IN LOVE with. Also, you go on birth control BEFORE you get pregnant .....not after. And an abortion is NOT a form of birth control. That is not a responsible way of talking. please please please wait to have sex.