than from the man who supposedly loves me and (his words)will never stray from me.yet we are not married because i am good at picking up the left over pieces from two bitter divorces from his previous lives.this is the fifth christmas we have been together and i can not go through another christmas of will you marry me with yet another ring and then he takes them away from me on valentines day?why is he doing this to me?why wont he set a date?i feel like i am a playdate!
2007-12-05 12:43:24 · 6 answers · asked by CHER 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
protik,i already did.he told me to get the f**k out of his house.
2007-12-05 13:14:09 · update #1
munchy,i already had the talk with him.he told me that i am not a for sure thing and his daughter is everything to him.nobody comes before or after her.
2007-12-05 13:16:00 · update #2
munchy,he knows that not being his wife is eating me up alive.
2007-12-05 13:17:02 · update #3
jbo,i have already said that to him.his first wife lrft him 18 years ago because of his former drug and alcohol problems with his first birn daughter.his second wife committed suicide feb.07 because she was a fat lazy ex stripper whor3 who was too selfish to give the child support money to their daughters needs,\.now i am the mother of 3 kids.2 are my own,the third is his and she controls him.
2007-12-05 13:21:48 · update #4
jbo,i have already said that to him.his first wife left him 18 years ago because of his former drug and alcohol problems with his first born daughter.his second wife committed suicide feb.07 because she was a fat lazy ex stripper whor3 who was too selfish to give the child support money to their daughters needs,now i am the mother of 3 kids.2 are my own,the third is his and she controls him.
2007-12-05 13:23:27 · update #5
I am really sorry to her about your situation. I cannot completely relate, having been married continuously for the past 14 years to the same woman, but I can and do sympathize.
There are likely a lot of reasons, none simple, as to why he will not commit. But I think they boil down to this; he has not decided if you are the woman he can live with, or the woman he cannot live without. If you are the first, then he will continue to put you off and maintain the status quo. If you are not happy with that, then you will have to make the choice of whether to accept it or leave the relationship.
However, if you are the second, then he is scared. He is afraid, based on his prior experiences, that it could all end badly. It is the uncertainty of it that makes him push you away, then bend over backwards to get you back. You are going to have to decide if he is Mr Right or Mr Right Now. If he is Mr Right, you are going to have to help him work through his fear of commitment. If Mr Right Now, you will have to decide how much of this you are willing to tolerate.
I know that is sort of rambling, and I apologize if it is not all that clear. But please be assured that I send you my best wishes in this matter and hope it works out for you.
2007-12-06 05:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From all what you said, I think your next step is to move and don't wast your time in a relation like this. You look for building a family relationship, and he doesn't .
Love is not an aim in itself, it's a mean to build up a strong family, love ,mutual understanding and respect are the main elements of it.
2007-12-06 00:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by egymah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's damaged goods. and it sounds like he's scared to commit. (2 faulty marriages) you should be smarter than that.
if you don't have any direct attachments (meaning kid's) then i would give him some space. be his friend and cut-off the sex. tell him you need to figure out if you really want to go through being 3rd in his life. (he's obviously still hung up on the first two) and he has major trust issues. no trust no relationship.
seems to me like you deserve way better than what he's offering you, which isn't much.
good luck sweetie.
2007-12-05 21:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by ms.jmoss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a total DI*CKHEAD
don't let him manipulate you. Do you really want the stability of marriage with this Guy? I wish you well Cheryl and hope you get what you really want and that your partner realises that you are precious
2007-12-05 23:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the questions a bit confusing but i think u need to have a serious talk and tell him ur fears/worries.
guys arent mind readers and he may not know theres something bothering u.
hope that helped :)
goodluck
2007-12-05 20:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by unknown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a divorcee and you are not. What is he waiting for? Give him an ultimatum and if he fails, move on!
2007-12-05 20:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋