I will be graduating from college soon, and upon graduation I am planning to move out of my house. Although my mom verbally says that she supports my idea, I know she doesn't want me to leave. The primary reason why I want to leave is that I have a step-dad, and we do not communicate/talk at all unless he has conflicts with me. Sometimes, I feel disgusted just to see him in the morning and hope that he won't complain about things I do. Because of this bad relationship, the relationship between my mom and me has been deteriorating year by year. Secondly, my mom is very strict that she wants me home at eight p.m. unless I am at work or school. I'm busy and have no time to go out anyways, so in that sense it's not that annoying. But I feel that it is little too extreme considering the fact that I am TWENTY ONE. I feel that right before I leave, my mom's gonna prevent me from moving out. So, What is the best way to move out of the house without hurting my her?
2007-12-05 12:37:19 · 4 answers · asked by Steven S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's hard for some parents to let go. Don't make any secret that you plan to move out after you graduate, you don't need to sneak out in the night. Go apartment hunting when you are getting close to graduation. When you find something you like, take your Mom to see it, tell her you value her opinion. Even if she doesn't like it, it will reinforce the fact that you are moving on. Your Mom really can't stop you from moving, you know. If she feels like part of it, she may be willingto work with you a bit.
My wife practically furnished our elder son's apartment when he moved out.
2007-12-05 12:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that this is the day you been preparing for. That now its time to go out and make her proud. Tell her that you love her with all your heart and that its time to get your life all set up. Tell her she taught you so well all you could do is make her proud. And once you get that sense of freedom you will have wished you did it sooner. Just make sure that your working and know how the bills are gonna get paid. The real world is a whole lot different from bein at home with mom. But if your ready for it then go ahead and enjoy the benefits of your own place...
2007-12-05 23:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are twenty-one, and can move when ever you want. If she doesn't want you to go, then there is no way of not hurting her. You should start getting a plan in action, of where you are going to move, the money it will take to get this done, the furniture you need to have in order to live. Utilities. So many things. Get it all ready, and tell your mom 1 week ahead of time, so she can't throw and wrench into it.
2007-12-05 20:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open with her. Let her know that you're 21 and you feel that it's time to stand on your own two feet. Let her know that she's your mom and will always be. And that you don't want to cut her out of her life. Tell her that she raised you good, and should be proud of you.
Invite her out shopping to help you buy things for your new place.
Tell her not to look at it as losing her 'baby' but that you're an adult, and you can't wait to have an adult relationship with her, but she'll ALWAYS be your mother.
2007-12-05 20:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋