I am a 17 year old senior in High school. I will be 18 in april, but the way I am living in my house in unbearable. Im unwanted in my own home, and just yesterday my father and stepmother were saying they wish they could get rid of me & my step brother. they say they are tired of taking care of us, and the only reason im still here is because im only 17, but my best friend in CO said that I can stay with her, and her mom is ok with it, and im tired of getting beat by my dad, and feeling unwanted and unloved in my own home..Im wondering, if I were to run away..what exactly would happen to me?? Ive been told that Id go to juvenile, but Ive also ben told that the police would just make me go back home... and Id only be 90 days away from being 18..so aren't I old enough to make my own decisions about where I want to live??
2007-12-05 12:14:15 · 7 answers · asked by kingsprincess90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are a minor until the day you turn 18. If you runaway, and it’s your first offense, you’ll probably just be picked up and returned back home. But then you get to deal with some very unhappy parents, who will likely make your life even worse for the next 4 months. And anyone who assists you/encourages you to runaway can face charges for doing so, and if you cross state line, it’s then *federal* charges and that’s nothing to mess with. Do you want to put your friend/her mom in that position?
At 12:01 am on the day you turn 18, you can move anywhere you want. Until then, your parents get to decide where you live.
Here’s a suggestion--just make yourself scarce at home. I know plenty of 17-year-olds who between school, work, sports, etc are rarely at home other than to sleep. The less time you spend at home, the less likely you are to have a confrontation with your parents. Of course, that’s not to say that you can stay away from home without your parents consent. You can’t. Basically, they have to consent to whatever activity you’re participating in.
If there is actually physical abuse, then you can report it. But unless there is physical evidence of abuse/the court feels that you are in immediate danger, here’s what’s likely to happen…the state will open a case for investigation, they’ll leave you in the home while it’s being investigated (again, unless they feel you are in immediate danger), and then you’ll turn 18 before they even complete the investigation.
Now if BOTH your parents agree to let you go stay with your friend/her mom, then you can do that. But since you're a minor you can’t enroll yourself in school (and your friend’s mom can’t enroll you either unless your parents give her some type of temporary custody of you, which they probably won’t do for several reasons), so you can forget graduating this year.
2007-12-05 16:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad you are going to move now instead of waiting until you are 18 and see what he says. If you are getting beat why don't you call social services. They will take both of you out of the house. I wouldn't run away because your dad might just say leave her in Juvi and then you would be stuck there. Contact social services and see what they can do for you. If this friends mother is willing to take you into their home see if she will legally step up for you in order to get you out of the home.
2007-12-05 20:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what state you live in, but you may be of legal age to move out. You don't have to be 18 to do some things. You are close enough to being 18 that you could probably go on your own. Contact your county attorney and ask them. If you explain the situation, they would understand. You need to talk with the mother and find out if it really would be okay for you to move with them. If you can prove abuse, you would be out of there by the courts, and they might let you move because of that. You need to do some homework and find out. Don't take anybodys word for it.
2007-12-05 20:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PLAN: You will run away and the police will catch you and you will be taken back to your house then when your dad beats you that means you have a right to run away your parents won't even care if they want you out so they WILL be ok with you moving to your BFF
2007-12-05 21:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are close to 18 then the police cannot touch you at all.I would talk to a counsellor about your homelife.If your friends mother can have you then that is good.Move out while you can.
2007-12-05 20:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
as far as i understand it, police don't do much of anything if you're SUPERCLOSE to being of age. If he beats you talk to your school counselor. Put him in jail screw that nobody needs to be treated that way.
2007-12-05 20:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by goodgirlsweet 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wait until you are 18....
2007-12-05 20:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋