I was lyed to , cheated on, betrayed please help?

Question

I was dating someone who lyed and cheated on me (i never walked in on him cheated but im 90% positive he did) he denied it etc anyway we are no longer together its been months. i recently looked up infedility rates and why people cheat online and it seems what they are saying is everyone cheats basically. its rare not to lie and rare not to cheat. so im just gonna take in the towel know as they say and never date again. i am young and just feel people make excuses for why people cheat because they arent getting enough of something in their relationship. In my case though it was me not getting enough respect, love, appreciation and he cheats, isnt that ironic?
i just want to be happy, is there a point to relationships anymore am i the only 1 who doesnt cheat? (hypothetical) but seriously it seems most people cheat and dont feel bad these days. why is it the amazing half of the relationship getting betrayed and hurt and broken up with?

please dont answer if you didnt read the question. we are no longer together

hes the type u would never expect to be the way he is. i went out for him strictly because he was nice i wasnt even attracted to him at first. go figure

Answer 1

forget about this guy! if he makes u like this...do u really wanna be with him?

Answer 2

I know what you mean.
I went thru this and it truly feels terrible!!
At the same time, there are lessons to be learned from these things, and also, it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
Lesson #1: listen to sound advice .. I went out with ppl even when my friends said I shouldn't. Some things are not meant to be. Pay attention to what all the ppl around u r saying, and instead of ignoring them, take it in. Hey, my mother didn't even want me to have a bf period, she strictly goes by the whole boys/girls and books don't mix saying. The saying is true also lol but besides that, when ppl have your best interest at heart, it's important to do what's right instead of just what feels right.
Lesson #2: communicate, communicate, communicate .. I have been blessed with a bf who communicates sooo well. It's been almost 4 months & so this has been my second to longest relationship (the longest was 5 months) Communication - It's soo important! Ignoring little things means having to deal with a MOUNTAIN of little things later on. If you think about something a lot, don't feel like you don't deserve to say how you feel, no matter how stupid or little it may seem, if something is important enough to you that you are thinking about it, you can speak about it.
Lesson #3: never rush n2 anything. a past bf of mine liked another girl at the same time that he liked me. however, he was very persistent and asked me out over and over again. although I did wait, and he had to ask me over and over to get the yes, in the time that I was saying no, I should have been learning more about him bcuz if I had, I would have paid attention when he talked about this girl who "liked him." He eventually cheated w/ her .. and then begged 2 get back w/ me. Ppl can be stupid that way, but I clearly made mistakes there as well.
Lesson #4: Love! and love some more, no matter what. Treat people the way you want to be treated. No matter what anybody does to you, it's what you do that will either benefit you or hurt you in the future, and at the end of the day, if we're not happy, it's only OUR fault. So do what you need 2 do 2 b happy.

Answer 3

Hon,Yes,You feel betrayed and you have every right to feel that way. But you had said before,Everybody cheats. Now we are not all angels here,But none of us claim to be. That's why God had given us the right to forgive and forget. I'll admit that I cheat,And I have apologized for doing so. You just can't stop trusting people just because of something you read on the computer. If you cannot trust people anymore,How can you expect people to trust you? I'm not trying to be mean,My dear. It is just that I do feel that you do deserve someone that will love you and respect you. There is someone out there for you. Just give them a chance. I am NOT talking about going back to your boyfriend. But at least explain why you broke up with him and then move on. I do not know you that well and what I do know deserves my utmost respect. You seem like a strong and independent woman. You also sound like you would be someone's fantasy catch. You can do something,Hon. What you can do is be a first and date someone for the longest of time and keep your love going strong. If I wasn't too timid,I would definitely ask you out. You are very sweet and I must get going. Goodnight now.

Answer 4

While some DO cheat, I don't feel that it's the majority by any means! I never did. My sig. other never did and out of 12 of our closest friends only ONE did, so the numbers aren't as bad as you think they are.

Do what you can to find someone of quality, who trusts you as much as you trust them. You'll be happy--all it takes is finding the right one.

Use the past as a learning experience, so you DON'T pick up the same type of guy (we're attracted to certain types, if you're going after the ones that wander, you have to look at why that happens in you).

Answer 5

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Answer 6

don't worry about these things to much,just say if he is not for me there must be a better person out there who will love and will not cheat.just move on